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#StillOnThisMarriageMatter : 9ice; “I Want My Woman To Kneel Down To Serve Me Food”

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“Alapomeji” crooner, 9ice sat down for an interview with veteran TV personality Funmi Iyanda and they got to discuss 9ice’s broken marriage specifically and then marriages in general.

When Funmi asked him to clear the air on his status, the Gongo Aso singer launched into an explanation on the problem with modern day marriages.

“I’m single but I’m not searching because it’s not part of my priority right now. I’ve dealt with this topic so many times and people just tend to take the negative side of it but it’s like they don’t understand what I’m saying because they’re not in my shoe.”

He continued: “Marriage is not for this generation… I have my reasons(for saying that) because, as a Nigerian, as a Yoruba man, there are some culture and tradition that you’re being taught when you’re being brought up as a man. You want the same thing from your wife (but) you’re not going to get it from today’s woman. because then we have exposure. They are the ones that sent us to school. And I still want my woman to serve me food and kneel down. Ejo Aunty, who’s going to do that for me now?”

He added: “but you’re not going to get that as a man, so we today’s men, we need to get that into our thick skull that you’re not going to get the same thing your mom is giving to your dad. You are going to get something different because who you’re getting married to is quite different from your mom. But we are not ready. That’s why you see that this generation are losing marriages, six months and it’s dissolved.

He went on to advise people to marry for the right reasons and not out of societal pressures and asked that people are certain beyond all reasonable doubt before going into marriage. He warned couples not to go through with marriages if they become uncertain before walking down the aisle.
“Before you go to the altar, like five to ten minutes, your mind will be telling you that this thing is not going to work,” he said and when Iyanda asked if that happened to him, he replied, “It happened to me, but I felt it because I was like ‘come on, I have so many things to lose more than what I’m going to gain’. Because if I do that, it’s like I’m against the rest of the world.”
He advised: “So we should hundred percent get married for what will make you happy. Regardless of the culture, regardless of your parents, get married because you want to get married. Get married because it will make you happy. Don’t get married because Tinuke got married.”


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Why You Should Cherish Mother’s Day: A Short Story Of Appreciation

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It doesn’t matter if its celebrated more than once in a year. Mothers deserve every ounce of love they can get.

I won’t narrate the boring tale of “she gave birth to you,she didn’t abort you”. Its not strong enough. Everybody’s story is different…understood. But for those who mothers have made the biggest impact in their lives, what are your fondest memories of her?

Some would say ‘mama did not give up on me when others would’. ‘mama has been my greatest backbone’. Mothers are the vessels of love and considering everything they have been through, showing love on just one day isn’t enough. At some point in life, you get to a stage where you need to tell your mum to take a chill pill and let you take care of her. Especially the Nigerian mothers…great respect to them. Behind every successful graduate, is their overbearing mama who didnt let you give up when it got too hard.Personally, my fondest wish is to make my mother proud. After everything she has done, a little love wouldn’t hurt.

With that being said, take a look at this

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s what you should do. Once in a while, take some time out and give your mother that treat she deserves. It never gets boring….

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74 Motivating Quotes on Strength and Making It Through Hard Times

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It’s just a regular day.

Maybe things are going great. Or at least OK. And you feel pretty good.

Then something happens.

You make a mistake. A setback slips out from around a corner and hits you between the eyes.

Or you fall into a rough patch, a crisis or feel that you’re too far away from achieving your dream and you just want to pack up and go home.

This week’s article is about those times. And about motivating you, recharging you and staying strong when you need to.

Here’s 74 of the most though-provoking, encouraging and helpful quotes on strength and making it through tough times from the last 2500 years.

  1. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
    – Dale Carnegie
  2. “Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.”
    – Susan Gale
  3. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. “Tough times never last, but tough people do.”
    – Robert H. Schuller
  5. “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”
    – Hermann Hesse
  6. “When written in Chinese the word “crisis” is composed of two characters – one represents danger and the other represents opportunity.”
    – John F. Kennedy
  7. “Love does not dominate; it cultivates.”
    — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  8. “He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak. Strong convictions precede great actions.”
    – Louisa May Alcott
  9. “I like criticism. It makes you strong.”
    – LeBron James
  10. “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.”
    – George Bernard Shaw
  11. “Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.”
    – Unknown
  12. “Don’t brood. Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.”
    – Leo Buscaglia
  13. “Make up your mind that no matter what comes your way, no matter how difficult, no matter how unfair, you will do more than simply survive. You will thrive in spite of it.”
    – Joel Osteen
  14. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
    – Lao Tzu
  15. “Man can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air, but only for one second without hope”
    – Hal Lindsey
  16. “We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.”
    – J.K. Rowling
  17. “Concentration is the secret of strength.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  18. “Most of us, swimming against the tides of trouble the world knows nothing about, need only a bit of praise or encouragement – and we will make the goal.”
    – Jerome Fleishman
  19. “If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.”
    – Flavia Weedn
  20. “In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.”
    – Albert Camus
  21. “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”
    – Dale Carnegie
  22. “When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
    – Harriet Beecher Stowe
  23. “Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.”
    – Maya Angelou
  24. “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  25. “The more one judges, the less one loves.”
    – Honore de Balzac
  26. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
    – Mary Anne Radmacher
  27. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
    – Mahatma Gandhi
  28. “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”
    – Marie Curie
  29. “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
    – Marcus Aurelius
  30. “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.”
    – Vernon Howard
  31. “Maxim for life: You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”
    – Wayne Dyer
  32. “A man may fail many times but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.”
    – John Burroughs
  33. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”
    – William Ellery Channing
  34. “Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that’s what makes you strong.”
    – Sarah Dessen
  35. “The greatest test of courage on the earth is to bear defeat without losing heart.”
    – R. G. Ingersoll
  36. “People living deeply have no fear of death.”
    – Anais Nin
  37. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
    – Winston Churchill
  38. “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
    Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
    And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
    When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”
    – Kahlil Gibran
  39. “We acquire the strength we have overcome.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  40. “Courage isn’t having the strength to go on – it is going on when you don’t have strength.”
    – Napoléon Bonaparte
  41. “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”
    – Helen Keller
  42. “With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  43. “Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.”
    – Michael Jordan
  44. “It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more ‘manhood’ to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
    – Alex Karras
  45. “It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  46. “It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.”
    – Maya Angelou
  47. “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
    – Bruce Lee
  48. “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
    – Ann Landers
  49. “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.”
    – Soren Kierkegaard
  50. “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
    – Mahatma Gandhi
  51. “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
    The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.
    So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
    – Theodore Roosevelt
  52. “I don’t really want to become normal, average, standard. I want merely to gain in strength, in the courage to live out my life more fully, enjoy more, experience more. I want to develop even more original and more unconventional traits.”
    – Anaïs Nin
  53. “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
    – Chinese Proverb
  54. “Life is very interesting. In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.”
    – Drew Barrymore
  55. “A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”
    – Christopher Reeve
  56. “Adversity is like a strong wind. It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are.”
    – Arthur Golden
  57. “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
    – Catherine Ponder
  58. “You can’t really be strong until you can see a funny side to things.”
    – Ken Kesey
  59. “When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  60. “Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
    – Og Mandino
  61. “Where there is no struggle, there is no strength”
    – Oprah
  62. “I must not fear.
    Fear is the mind-killer.
    Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
    I will face my fear.
    I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
    And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
    Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
    Only I will remain.”
    – Frank Herbert
  63. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
    – Samuel Beckett
  64. “When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.”
    – Barbara Bloom
  65. “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”
    – Arnold Schwarzenegger
  66. “Our strength grows out of our weaknesses”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  67. “When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
    When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
    When the funds are low and the debts are high,
    And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
    When care is pressing you down a bit
    Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
    Success is failure turned inside out,
    The silver tint on the clouds of doubt,
    And you can never tell how close you are,
    It may be near when it seems afar.
    So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
    It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.”
    – Edgar A. Guest
  68. “Strength is the ability to break a chocolate bar into four pieces with your bare hands – and then eat just one of those pieces.”
    – Judith Viorst
  69. “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”
    – Friedrich Nietzsche
  70. “I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ’Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
    – Thomas Paine
  71. “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  72. “All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”
    – Walt Disney
  73. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of a greater or equal benefit.”
    – Napoleon Hill
  74. “Though I might travel afar, I will meet only what I carry with me, for every man is a mirror. We see only ourselves reflected in those around us.
    Their attitudes and actions are only a reflection of our own.
    The whole world and its condition has its counter parts within us all.
    Turn the gaze inward. Correct yourself and your world will change.”
    – Kristen Zambucka

What is your favorite quote on strength and making it through hard times? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

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How to Stay Calm: 17 Tips for Stressful and Frustrating Situations

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“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”
Sydney J. Harris

The stress is rising. You’re starting to feel frustrated with situation you’re in. Or angry. Or maybe sad and like you just want to pack up and go home.

But at the same time you also know that you need to keep calm.

To be able to think clearly. To not overreact, make the wrong decision or to not say the wrong thing in a moment of anger, overwhelm or confusion.

I’m sure you – just like me – have been in situations like these many times.

So this week I’d like to share 17 habits and strategies that have helped me to keep calm and to keep moving forward.

1. Just breathe.

This is pretty much always step one for me.

Just take a few deep breaths and focus fully on them to calm down a bit. If you have the time in the situation you’re in then I recommend sitting down for 1-2 minutes to do this. Only focus on the air slowly going and out and nothing else.

2. Then think of the consequences.

If you’re in a situation where you need to reply to what someone just said then follow up your few deep breaths with thinking about the consequences if you reply with overly tough words or if you back down instead of calmly standing your ground.

If you have an email or a phone message you need to reply to then consider taking more time to cool down – anywhere between 10 minutes to the next day – to get yourself into the right headspace before you reply.

3. Remember: It’s not always about you.

If someone attacks you with harsh words in a conversation or via email or phone then remind yourself that this may not even be about you.

He might be going overboard or overreacting because he’s having a bad day with a sick child or just a lot of things going wrong. Or she may lash out because she’s unhappy with her job, marriage or haven’t had a good night’s sleep in a while.

This reminder helps me to not take everything so personally and to think for a minute and calm down instead of being reactive and escalating the situation.

4. Take it just one small – or tiny – step at a time.

If you feel overwhelmed and stressed out then don’t make the classic mistake of thinking you have to do everything at once to solve this situation.

Just focus on making a start. On one small step or even just a tiny one you can take to move forward.

I find that when I approach a situation like this then I rarely get stuck in analysis paralysis and my mind calms down when I know I only have to do one small thing at a time.

5. Question your perspective.

If you feel that you’re starting to get really frustrated, angry or sad about a situation then question your perspective before it goes any further.

Ask yourself:

  • How would I think and feel it if I were in his or her shoes? This one can help you to go from negative emotions to empathy and understanding. And that tends to help to both calm down and to find a solution for the both of you.
  • Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks? This one grounds me and helps me to stop sweating all the small stuff and to not make mountains out molehills in everyday life. And it helps me to once again focus my time and energy on what truly matters in my life.

6. What would someone else do?

Another way to change your perspective in a tough situation is to get outside of your own head a bit.

Do that by asking yourself: what would X do in this situation?

Some good people or characters that you could use for the X and this question are:

  • Winnie the Pooh.
  • Mom or dad.
  • Your calm and wise friend.

Find a person in your life or someone from a book, movie etc. that you truly like and ask yourself what he or she would do to find a new perspective.

7. Cycle fully focused work with 100% rest.

This could be a solution if you’re stressed today.

But it is more importantly a long term solution to reduce stress levels and to consistently put yourself in a better headspace to handle the inevitable setbacks and crises that will happen at work.

You need to clear boundaries for this to work though.

Here are three such boundaries I use in my own life.

  • A start time and stop time for my work day. And that’s 8 o clock in the morning and 7 o clock in the evening.
  • A break every 45 minutes. Usually, after about 45 minutes of work I take a 10-15 minute break. If I have trouble with following that guideline and work too much then I use the alarm function on my smart phone to stick to my work/rest cycle.
  • No work on weekends. I stay away from the work computer except for doing one quick check of my inbox. And I only reply to emails there that are urgent. The rest can wait until Monday. If you use a work phone then leave it at your job. Or at least keep it off and only check the messages 1-2 times per weekend.

8. Remember to keep things extremely simple.

Here’s a reminder that I’ve used more time than I can count: “Keep things extremely simple”.

It used to be at the top of my white board for over a year to remind me to not overcomplicate and to think of situations and solutions in the simplest way I could. Overthinking is a big contributor to stress and to spending too much time and energy on things that aren’t really that complicated.

I quite often sandwich this reminder between first focusing on my breathing and then following it up with focusing on one small or tiny step forward.

9. Ask instead of guessing.

Trying to mindread someone can quickly amplify stress and frustration. Because it’s pretty much impossible to do.

Plus, it can easily lead to a much worse scenario in your mind than what is actually going on in the other person’s head.

So communicate and ask what you want to ask.

10. Be 10 minutes early.

Not much help when you’re already in stressful situation. But a good reminder for tomorrow and next week.

Plan a bit ahead so that you can – as often as possible – let transportation time between meetings and destinations during your day become a small window where you can fully relax and rejuvenate so that you’ll be able to do fully focused work or be truly engaged when you arrive.

11. Reduce your to-do list.

A big or seemingly endless to-do list can cause a ton of overwhelm and stress.

To calm down simply ask yourself: what would I work on if I only had 2 hours for work today?

Then work on that task one step at a time.

This one helps me to quickly find my focus and to get started with doing one of truly most important things when I’m stressed. And it helps me to be selective with what I put on my to-do list for the day and week in the first place.

12. Go for a 5-15 minute laugh break.

When you feel overwhelmed and it’s hard to think then you can take this somewhat odd but effective kind of break.

For maybe 5-15 minutes focus on having fun, smiling and laughing.

Laughing and finding some fun breaks stress and tension. It helps your mind to relax.

You can do this by just spending a bit of time with someone at work, in school or at home that you know you’ll have fun with.

But I also recommend having a small mental or physical folder of things that you know will make you laugh.

For me it’s for example episodes of the Simpsons or comics by The Oatmeal and Jim Benton.

After that break you can return to your work or the situation that you’re trying to figure out with a lighter mind.

13. Take some time for yourself in nature.

A more conventional alternative to laugh breaks is to take a break where you go out in nature and spend some time in silence there to recharge yourself.

I usually take these breaks by going out for a slow walk in our nearby forest where I take in all the sounds, sights and smells for a little while.

14. Ask for help.

You don’t always have to go it alone in these situations. You can ask a friend, family member or even someone you may not know that well for a bit of help.

You might not always get it but you may be surprised at how helpful people can be if you just ask.

15. Just take care of today.

It’s hard to keep calm if you look at all the things you may have to get to done to solve a situation or to overcome a challenge.

That’s why I’ve already shared a few tips that help you to concentrate on a much smaller part of the situation. Such as when you focus on just one small or tiny step or when you ask yourself the question about what you’d work on if you only had 2 hours for work today.

Here’s another one of those tips and habits that help me.

What you do is simply to tell yourself: just take care of today.

Concentrate only on that. Forget about all the tomorrows for now. Narrow your focus and take care of only today.

Tomorrow will come in time and you can take care of it then.

16. Had a setback? Then be your own best friend.

Don’t let a temporary setback drag you down into a thought spiral of defeatism and negativity.

Instead, ask yourself this to keep going on a healthier track even if you don’t feel so good at the moment:

How would my best friend or my parent support me and help me in this situation?

Then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.

17. Listen to yourself.

If you feel you’re having more trouble than usual with staying calm in several situations and you’re really frustrated in general and drained of energy then listen to yourself.

Step back before you run right into a brick wall and do or say something you really wouldn’t usually do.

Schedule more time to just take care of yourself.

Spend one evening – or a few – in bed and just watch your favorite TV-shows or movies. Take a trip over the weekend and just focus on relaxing and doing what you think is fun or fulfilling. Spend more time out in nature for a few days or a week.

Source: POSITIVITY BLOG

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Your Road To Recovery From An Abusive Relationship

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Being the outsider,you would think that once the abused has finally escaped from the abuser,the worst is over. Well,yeah,the most difficult part is over but now it’s time for healing.

Honestly,picking yourself up after an abusive relationship is the most difficult  thing to do. Why? Because the only thing that has been on your mind is how to get out and now that you’re out,you have no idea what to do. It’s like you’ve been living in a house that’s full of darkness with no space for light and now that you’re in the light,you get terrified,you don’t know what to do and for a nanosecond,you feel like you should go back to that house.

Yeah,your internal journey is only just beginning. You are now back in charge of your life and you have no idea what to do with it. Part of your journey will be painful,tough and rough but what should keep you going is the fact that you need to make something out of yourself and you absolutely can’t go back. No more violence,no more emotional damage,no more abuse. You are brand new. You have a chance to rewrite your own chapter,Heck! You can write a whole book! As part of the steps to recovery,here are some suggestions on what you should do:

  • Don’t live in denial; It wasn’t a dream. The first step to recovering from anything is to accept that it actually happened. Don’t act like it was a dream,accept that it happened,don’t judge yourself then try to move on instead of dwelling on whether or not it was a dream.

 

  • Don’t be quick to jump into another relationship; This is especially when you know that your current idea of love is a bit warped. Take care of yourself first,love yourself and date only when you are sure that you are ready to.

 

  • Re-discover your favorite things to do: Try to get back to those healthy hobbies and activities you’ve had to abandon because of your former relationship. Try to do fun things that will take your mind away from negative thoughts and actions.

 

  • Form new goals: Set goals for the things you want to achieve,make a list and endeavor that you complete them. It gives you a serene feeling of accomplishment. Of course,these goals must be realistic and genuine.

 

  • Listen to yourself : You have to regain your self confidence. It’s natural that your abuser must have made you lose your inner voice but you have to get it back. It’s your turn to start making decisions that will be to your benefit and remember that no one is in charge of your life but you. Be patient with yourself

 

  • Avoid dark locations

 

  • Reach out to friends,family and a therapist,especially when you are feeling low. Mend broken bonds

 

  • Have a personal mantra to keep reminding yourself of who you are,how amazing you are and the goals you plan to achieve

 

  • Avoid all contact with your abuser. If possible,move to another country

 

  • Give yourself a treat,take yourself out to the spa and just relax,have fun

 

  • Congratulate yourself for being brave enough to leave

 

  • Try to unlearn unhealthy survival strategies,Kill the people pleaser syndrome in you. Don’t diminish your value either. You are worth every good thing you get. Don’t cut yourself or take drugs as a way out. It’s only temporary. When you get back to normal,you’ll feel worse so just avoid it entirely.

 

  • Learn to deal with naive,insensitive self righteous people who don’t get it but they still mouth off anyhow

 

  • Finally,you need to learn to forgive yourself,love yourself. Keep in mind that nobody is at fault for what happened. Before you can move on at all,you need to let go of everything. If you keep blaming him,you are giving him power over you because each time you think about it,your mood changes. Grow and take responsibility. You don’t have to confront him to forgive him. You can’t be hard on yourself. Accept everything that has happened to you,forgive yourself and forgive him. Have that personal conviction that its not going to happen again. You’ve come so far and you can still go further. You’re forgiving everyone involved in what happened to you,not for their sakes but for yours.

 

 

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41 Inspiring Quotes on Failure (and How to Handle It)

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On some days things don’t go as planned. You fall. Or fail. Or stumble.

It’s a part of a life well lived but how you look at and handle these dark or negative situations can have a huge impact on your life, success and happiness.

In this week’s article I’d like to share the best advice and thoughts on failure from the past from the people who walked this earth before us (well, quite a few of them are still here and walking among us).

This is 41 of the most motivating, though-provoking and helpful thoughts on failure and how to handle it from the past 2500 years.

  1. “Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.”
    C. S. Lewis
  2. “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”
    – Michael Jordan
  3. “No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not, at one time or other, find himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of failure.“
    Napoleon Hill
  4. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
    Samuel Beckett
  5. “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”
    Buddha
  6. “An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he’s in. He treats his failures simply as practice shots.”
    Charles F. Kettering
  7. “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.”
    Confucius
  8. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
    Henry Ford
  9. “When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.”
    – George Bernard Shaw
  10. “A man may fail many times but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.”
    John Burroughs
  11. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.”
    J.K. Rowling
  12. “To be wrong is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”
    Confucius
  13. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
    Albert Einstein
  14. “Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.”
    Virgil Thomson
  15. “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.”
    Eloise Ristad
  16. “Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes and for your failures. You can’t go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else’s success as your failure is a cancerous way to live.”
    Kevin Bacon
  17. “A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools.”
    Douglas Adams
  18. “Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be.”
    John Wooden
  19. “I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
    Anthony Robbins
  20. “Failure after long perseverance is much grander than never to have a striving good enough to be called a failure.”
    George Eliot
  21. “A man may fall many times, but he won’t be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.”
    Elmer G. Letterman
  22. “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.”
    George Bernard Shaw
  23. “What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning – and some of them many times over – what do you find? That you can swim? Well – life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!”
    Alfred Adler
  24. “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”
    Robert T. Kiyosaki
  25. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
    Michael Jordan
  26. “Failure is nature’s plan to prepare you for great responsibilities.”
    Napoleon Hill
  27. “You’ll always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
    Wayne Gretzky
  28. “A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.”
    John C. Maxwell
  29. “There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.”
    Tom Krause
  30. “Success isn’t permanent and failure isn’t fatal.”
    Mike Ditka
  31. “Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”
    Winston Churchill
  32. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of a greater or equal benefit.”
    Napoleon Hill
  33. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk. In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.”
    Mark Zuckerberg
  34. “No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.”
    Chris Hardwick
  35. “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”
    Elbert Hubbard
  36. “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.”
    Mark Twain
  37. “Success builds character, failure reveals it.”
    Dave Checkett
  38. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
    Jack Canfield
  39. “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.”
    Ken Robinson
  40. “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.”
    Zig Ziglar
  41. “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
    Napoleon Hill

What is your favorite quote on failure? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

Culled from: Positivity Blog

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101 Inspiring Happiness Quotes

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The written word is truly an amazing thing.

With the help of it we can record out innermost thoughts and spread them if we like.

With the help of the written word we can look far, far back into time, through the decades, the centuries and, yes, even the millennias.

Today I would like to look back into the past and see what the wise people who have walked on this earth can tell us about happiness and how to uncover it.

No matter if you live today or lived two thousand years ago.

This is 101 of the most inspiring, touching and helpful thoughts from the past on happiness.

  1. “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
    Buddha
  2. “Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed.”
    Unknown
  3. “To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”
    Albert Camus
  4. “If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
    If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
    If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
    If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
    Chinese Proverb
  5. “The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
    Ashley Montagu
  6. “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
    Stacey Charter
  7. “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
    Dale Carnegie
  8. “It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.”
    Lucille Ball
  9. “Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”
    Winnie the Pooh
  10. “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”
    Epictetus
  11. “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
    Frederick Keonig
  12. “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”
    Thich Nhat Hanh
  13. “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
    Eskimo Proverb
  14. “To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness.”
    Mary Stuart
  15. “There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality.”
    Seneca
  16. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
    Robert A. Heinlein
  17. “Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.”
    Dennis Waitley
  18. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
    Mahatma Gandhi
  19. “The only joy in the world is to begin.”
    Cesare Pavese
  20. “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go”
    Oscar Wilde
  21. “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”
    Marthe Troly-Curtin
  22. “Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon”
    Winnie the Pooh
  23. “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
    Herman Cain
  24. “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
    Confucius
  25. “There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”
    Anthony de Mello
  26. “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”
    Dalai Lama
  27. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”
    Helen Keller
  28. “Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
    Aristotle
  29. “It is more fitting for a man to laugh at life than to lament over it.”
    Seneca
  30. “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.”
    Marcel Pagnol
  31. “If men would consider not so much wherein they differ, as wherein they agree, there would be far less of uncharitableness and angry feeling in the world.”
    Joseph Addison
  32. “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”
    George Burns
  33. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”
    Franklin D. Roosevelt
  34. “The pleasure which we most rarely experience gives us greatest delight.”
    Epictetus
  35. “It’s been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.”
    L.M. Montgomery
  36. “Happiness is acceptance.”
    Unknown
  37. “The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does.”
    James M. Barrie
  38. “We begin from the recognition that all beings cherish happiness and do not want suffering. It then becomes both morally wrong and pragmatically unwise to pursue only one’s own happiness oblivious to the feelings and aspirations of all others who surround us as members of the same human family. The wiser course is to think of others when pursuing our own happiness.”
    Dalai Lama
  39. “Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.”
    Dr. Robert Anthony
  40. “The unhappy derive comfort from the misfortunes of others.”
    Aesop
  41. “For many men, the acquisition of wealth does not end their troubles, it only changes them.”
    Seneca
  42. “A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?”
    Albert Einstein
  43. “Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.”
    Bertrand Russell
  44. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
    Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  45. “Happiness is a myth we seek,
    If manifested surely irks;
    Like river speeding to the plain,
    On its arrival slows and murks.
    For man is happy only in
    His aspiration to the heights;
    When he attains his goal, he cools
    And longs for other distant flights.”
    Kahlil Gibran
  46. “Happiness is a state of activity.”
    Aristotle
  47. “This planet has – or rather had – a problem, which was this: most of the people living on it were unhappy for pretty much of the time. Many solutions were suggested for this problem, but most of these were largely concerned with the movement of small green pieces of paper, which was odd because on the whole it wasn’t the small green pieces of paper that were unhappy.”
    Douglas Adams
  48. “Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.”
    Eleanor Roosevelt
  49. “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
    Confucius
  50. “The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom.”
    Arthur Schopenhauer
  51. “Men spend their lives in anticipations, in determining to be vastly happy at some period when they have time. But the present time has one advantage over every other – it is our own. Past opportunities are gone, future have not come. We may lay in a stock of pleasures, as we would lay in a stock of wine; but if we defer the tasting of them too long, we shall find that both are soured by age.”
    Charles Caleb Colton
  52. “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
    Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
  53. “Happy he who learns to bear what he cannot change.”
    Friedrich Schiller
  54. “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
    Winston Churchill
  55. “I’d far rather be happy than right any day.”
    Douglas Adams
  56. “Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”
    Andy Rooney
  57. “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.”
    James Oppenheim
  58. “Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
    Benjamin Disraeli
  59. “The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
    Martha Washington
  60. “Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.”
    Albert Schweitzer
  61. “Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy.”
    Heraclitus
  62. “Happiness is a how; not a what. A talent, not an object.”
    Herman Hesse
  63. “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”
    Aesop
  64. “Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
    Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  65. “Happiness is something that comes into our lives through doors we don’t even remember leaving open.”
    Rose Lane
  66. “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
    Albert Ellis
  67. “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”
    Groucho Marx
  68. “Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.”
    Unknown
  69. “Your work is discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”
    Buddha
  70. “That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.”
    Henry David Thoreau
  71. “Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.”
    Maxim Gorky
  72. “A quiet secluded life in the country, with the possibility of being useful to people to whom it is easy to do good, and who are not accustomed to have it done to them; then work which one hopes may be of some use; then rest, nature, books, music, love for one’s neighbor — such is my idea of happiness.”
    Leo Tolstoy
  73. “It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.”
    F. Scott Fitzgerald
  74. “If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires.”
    Epicurus
  75. “Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.”
    William Feather
  76. “Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.”
    John Henry Jowett
  77. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
    Eleanor Roosevelt
  78. “And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”
    Confucius
  79. “If you are too busy to laugh, you are too busy.”
    Proverb
  80. “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
    Helen Keller
  81. “For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his/her happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time.
    If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.”
    Andy Rooney
  82. “Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.”
    Buddha
  83. “The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
    Andre Maurois
  84. “The grass is always greener where you water it.”
    Unknown
  85. “Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.”
    Marquis de Condorcet
  86. “On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind what you do.”
    Eckhart Tolle
  87. “The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life.”
    Brian Tracy
  88. “Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
    Marcel Proust
  89. “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
    George Bernard Shaw
  90. “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.”
    Leo Buscaglia
  91. “A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.”
    William Arthur Ward
  92. “Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.”
    Mary Lou Retton
  93. “I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives.”
    Dalai Lama
  94. “Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
    Joseph Campbell
  95. “Happiness consists of living each day as if it were the first day of your honeymoon and the last day of your vacation.”
    Leo Tolstoy
  96. “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
    Abraham Lincoln
  97. “Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
    Unknown
  98. “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
    When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”
    Kahlil Gibran
  99. “If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.”
    Morris West
  100. “Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.”
    Milton Erickson
  101. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
    Mark Twain

What is your favorite quote on happiness? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

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Birthday Wish List

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Everybody has that list that looks like an exercise book. All the things you plan to do on your birthday especially when its the big 18,21,25,30 and so on. Of course,everybody’s wish list is different,depending on the level of maturity.

However,for me,the most important thing about a birthday is acknowledging the fact that you are still alive,i mean you have lived for more than 10,20 years,whatever the case may be. As you are about to mark this very memorable event in your life,keep this in mind. Don’t wait for people to celebrate you. celebrate yourself,make yourself feel special. Remember,that day is all about you and you alone. It’s a ‘make yourself happy’ day,nothing more. Don’t overstress it. Wake up in the morning,stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself,’happy birthday gorgeous. You’ve been amazing. Purely awesome in fact’. It’s not being vain. It’s called self love. Appreciate yourself,take some time out. If you’re not one to throw a party,order a large pizza with a tub of icecream and go crazy with it. Go to an arcade,there are so many things you could do. Don’t stay gloomy on that day. You can even do a thanksgiving in church or have your own little praise jam in your room..anything really. If no one gets you gifts,get yourself a gift.

Take a look at some random facts about ‘birthday’

  • The Golden Birthday; When your age and date of birth are the same
  • It is believed that a candle sends an individual’s prayer to the almighty. Hence, many wish before a blowing candle to let the almighty know about their desires. The candle, placed on a birthday cake in Germany was a symbolic representation of light of life.
  • On 23rd April, 1616, famous William Shakespeare took his last breath on his 52nd Birthday. Definitely a date to remember for all the people who love literature.
  • Birthday Cake– Many of us must have wondered that where actually Birthday Cakes have come into picture from? This actually came from ancient Greeks. The motive was quite simple. They made a beautiful round shaped cake with candles and offered Artemis, the Moon Goddess, to satisfy her.

  • Many would be surprised to hear that the most common birth date of the year is 5th of October which falls 9 months after the New Year’s Eve.
  • 15 million is the average number of people celebrating a birthday today (and every day around the world)!
  • In 1989, the world’s largest birthday cake was created to celebrate the 100th birthday of Fort Payne, Alabama.The cake weighed 128,238 pounds, 8 oz. and used 16,209 pounds of icing

Some Random Birthday Plans

  • Go see a movie
  • Go to the arcade and play some games with friends
  • Eat your heart out at a pizzeria and/or ice cream parlor
  • Spend your day with the less privileged. That’s called giving back
  • Go to church
  • Throw a small party at home
  • Amusement parks..You are never too old for that.
  • Go swimming
  • Go for a spa,manicure,pedicure. Spoil yourself silly

Basically,just do whatever suits you. But don’t go too crazy so you won’t start regretting the next day. Birthday gifts are up next

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#LADIES ONLY: Vlogging The Online Business That Nigerian ladies Ignore

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Nigerian graduates keep complaining of lack of jobs in the country and yet it’s as if the Government is doing little or nothing about it over the years. The truth is, there are little or no jobs at all for the fresh/old graduates of the country currently but does that mean that they should just stay idle and waste with their numerous skills, potentials and talents? Absolutely no! that is why in this article I have compiled step by step guide On Vlogging that Nigerian ladies should venture into instead of taking marriage as a career plan as some do these days.

Online, there are several jobs to do that can actually yield some manageable amount of income to survive food and house rent wise and later on career basis. Below we will be elaborating more in few points, step by step for Vlogging that best suits Nigerian ladies who have certain skills that needs an online audience and that can in turn yield them some cash for up keep.

  • What is Vlogging?

vlogging is a term that describes the act of making videos and uploading them to live streaming platforms such as Youtube, facebook, Instagram and more.

  1. Vlogging With Make-Up Videos:

I know what most females are currently thinking right now. “but I don’t know how to shoot/edit a video and besides I don’t have a laptop or desktop” well that has been resolved these days of ours where there are different Apps on the android and windows smartphones such as Viva Video app , BeautyPlus and more. As a young lady that has the skills of making people up for weddings and other ceremonies, it is high time you create a job online for yourself.

HOW?

By simply taking coverage of your make up jobs and other skills with your phone whenever you get a contract to make someone up at any event or even in your spare time. If you can’t afford a tripod to stable your smartphone while videoing, you can plead with a friend to help you video the make up process while you explain what you are doing in the video.

WHAT NEXT?

After making the video, then it’s time to get to Youtube to upload your video. If you don’t have a gmail, sign up and have one. It’s pretty simple. After that;

Visit youtube.com

Login at youtube using your Gmail

Establish your dashboard with the necessary details/descriptions to help your potential audience understand what your youtube channel is all about.

Upload your video using the “upload” button on the youtube dashboard.

 

BUT HOW DO I EARN FROM ALL THESE?

I know you have been thinking of this all along the above processes of vlogging. Well, it’s easy to monetize videos on youtube as it’s integrated with Google Adsense through which you can earn some cash as your channel pulls lots and lots of views to itself. To achieve this, you can use the monetization button on the dashboard to achieve that.

Note: after applying to Google Adsense to approve your channel, it may take 24hrs or days/weeks before they reply or approve/disapprove it.

 

How Can I get Viewers to My Youtube Videos?

Uploading your videos on Youtube is not enough as you need to copy the link of the video and share on different platforms such as facebook, twitter, instagram, and the rest of them. From there, some persons may pick interest and watch and as well subscribe to your channel and share with friends. Just start with this first and see how it goes.

When you venture into Vlogging as a young lady, you have a lot more chances as your audience and the views your videos pull will also attract advertisers to your channel who may want you to upload their business short clip on your channel as they pay. Don’t let your skills/talents waste while you can actually male something out of it.

 

What’s your thought on this Business idea for Nigerian ladies?

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We Are Meant For The Skies

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A chauffeur worked for a woman who liked to take her cat with her on errands.

During one trip, the uniformed driver dropped her at a shopping mall before refueling. The cat remained in the car, lounging on top of the limousine’s back seat.

The confused service station attendant stole several glances at the feline passenger relaxing in back. Finally, he asked: “Sir, is that cat someone important?”

I don’t know about the cat, but I’ve wasted too many years not feeling especially important. Not that I am or ever have been any more important than anybody else. But my low self esteem as a child and young adult always had me wishing I could measure up to others. I failed to see who I really was and struggled to become the person I felt I could be.

The following story reminds me how important a healthy self-image really is:

A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eagle hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life, the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he thrashed his wings and flew a few feet in the air.

Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong, golden wings. 

The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked. 

“That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbor. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth – we’re chickens.” 

So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that is what he thought he was. (Author unknown)

You and I were meant for the skies – not the chicken coop. Who will believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself?

— Steve Goodier

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The Winning Attitude

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”Winning doesn’t always mean being first. Winning means you are doing better than you’ve done before”(www.quotesvalley.com)

Success in every facet of life, starts by first developing and maintaining an expectant attitude of success. Simply put, if you want to succeed,you should expect that you are going to succeed, and because of this you will consistently take the actions that lead you to achieve their goals and become successful.

Winners never quit and quitters never win. It’s that simple. The hurdles and struggles are a part of your story,your thank you speech,your cookbook. Winston Churchill says; ”The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty”.

Now,what is the difference between a pessimist and an optimist? An optimist built the aeroplane,the pessimist built the parachute. Point being that,unless you are ready to push yourself beyond what you are used to,you are not ready to become a winner. Take a look at some tips for a winning attitude

  • Optimism; This of course is the first. In order to be able to achieve anything,you must believe in that thing and in yourself too. regardless of what happens,you should stay positive and continue striving ahead. Convince yourself that you can do it
  • Stop over worrying; its okay to worry a little bit because that pushes you to do better but do not over do it to the point where you convince yourself to give up. Carefully monitor your thoughts right before you fall asleep at night and first thing in the morning.  Then ask yourself, “What am I asking from the universe every single day?”  Chances are, what you are dwelling on has already shown up in your life.
  • Don’t play the blame game; stop making excuses for yourself by playing the blame card. only a lazy person would continue blaming the government and lack of resources as the reason why he sleeps at home all day. necessity as they say,is the mother of invention. as long as you are determined to achieve something,you will do it. Also,do not allow pride limit your chances of exploring opportunities. its everywhere,just grab one and make the best out of it
  • Have genuine passion for what you want to do; don’t follow someone else’s dreams. Work on yours and make it awesome. you are the best version of you there is so make the best out of it. Throw the ”average” sentiment away. You are beyond average.
  • Do not have a feeling of entitlement; don’t play the ‘my daddy is rich’ or ‘i have an inheritance’ card. work for your own money,achieve your own things because the feeling of owning something that you worked hard for is a feeling of bliss and ecstasy. Your parents have worked for their own money,now its your turn to make something out of yourself.
  • Don’t procrastinate; when you want to embark on a journey to success,you don’t procrastinate. successful people don’t postpone their activities. they do it as soon as possible because time waits for no one
  • Set your goals and try to achieve them within the stipulated time
  • Choose friends that motivate you and push you to be better than you already are
  • And finally,don’t forget God. In everything you do,always pray and dedicate it all to God to see you through and by His grace,you’ll make it

 

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