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Your Road To Recovery From An Abusive Relationship

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Being the outsider,you would think that once the abused has finally escaped from the abuser,the worst is over. Well,yeah,the most difficult part is over but now it’s time for healing.

Honestly,picking yourself up after an abusive relationship is the most difficult  thing to do. Why? Because the only thing that has been on your mind is how to get out and now that you’re out,you have no idea what to do. It’s like you’ve been living in a house that’s full of darkness with no space for light and now that you’re in the light,you get terrified,you don’t know what to do and for a nanosecond,you feel like you should go back to that house.

Yeah,your internal journey is only just beginning. You are now back in charge of your life and you have no idea what to do with it. Part of your journey will be painful,tough and rough but what should keep you going is the fact that you need to make something out of yourself and you absolutely can’t go back. No more violence,no more emotional damage,no more abuse. You are brand new. You have a chance to rewrite your own chapter,Heck! You can write a whole book! As part of the steps to recovery,here are some suggestions on what you should do:

  • Don’t live in denial; It wasn’t a dream. The first step to recovering from anything is to accept that it actually happened. Don’t act like it was a dream,accept that it happened,don’t judge yourself then try to move on instead of dwelling on whether or not it was a dream.

 

  • Don’t be quick to jump into another relationship; This is especially when you know that your current idea of love is a bit warped. Take care of yourself first,love yourself and date only when you are sure that you are ready to.

 

  • Re-discover your favorite things to do: Try to get back to those healthy hobbies and activities you’ve had to abandon because of your former relationship. Try to do fun things that will take your mind away from negative thoughts and actions.

 

  • Form new goals: Set goals for the things you want to achieve,make a list and endeavor that you complete them. It gives you a serene feeling of accomplishment. Of course,these goals must be realistic and genuine.

 

  • Listen to yourself : You have to regain your self confidence. It’s natural that your abuser must have made you lose your inner voice but you have to get it back. It’s your turn to start making decisions that will be to your benefit and remember that no one is in charge of your life but you. Be patient with yourself

 

  • Avoid dark locations

 

  • Reach out to friends,family and a therapist,especially when you are feeling low. Mend broken bonds

 

  • Have a personal mantra to keep reminding yourself of who you are,how amazing you are and the goals you plan to achieve

 

  • Avoid all contact with your abuser. If possible,move to another country

 

  • Give yourself a treat,take yourself out to the spa and just relax,have fun

 

  • Congratulate yourself for being brave enough to leave

 

  • Try to unlearn unhealthy survival strategies,Kill the people pleaser syndrome in you. Don’t diminish your value either. You are worth every good thing you get. Don’t cut yourself or take drugs as a way out. It’s only temporary. When you get back to normal,you’ll feel worse so just avoid it entirely.

 

  • Learn to deal with naive,insensitive self righteous people who don’t get it but they still mouth off anyhow

 

  • Finally,you need to learn to forgive yourself,love yourself. Keep in mind that nobody is at fault for what happened. Before you can move on at all,you need to let go of everything. If you keep blaming him,you are giving him power over you because each time you think about it,your mood changes. Grow and take responsibility. You don’t have to confront him to forgive him. You can’t be hard on yourself. Accept everything that has happened to you,forgive yourself and forgive him. Have that personal conviction that its not going to happen again. You’ve come so far and you can still go further. You’re forgiving everyone involved in what happened to you,not for their sakes but for yours.

 

 

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41 Inspiring Quotes on Failure (and How to Handle It)

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On some days things don’t go as planned. You fall. Or fail. Or stumble.

It’s a part of a life well lived but how you look at and handle these dark or negative situations can have a huge impact on your life, success and happiness.

In this week’s article I’d like to share the best advice and thoughts on failure from the past from the people who walked this earth before us (well, quite a few of them are still here and walking among us).

This is 41 of the most motivating, though-provoking and helpful thoughts on failure and how to handle it from the past 2500 years.

  1. “Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.”
    C. S. Lewis
  2. “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”
    – Michael Jordan
  3. “No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not, at one time or other, find himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of failure.“
    Napoleon Hill
  4. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
    Samuel Beckett
  5. “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”
    Buddha
  6. “An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he’s in. He treats his failures simply as practice shots.”
    Charles F. Kettering
  7. “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.”
    Confucius
  8. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
    Henry Ford
  9. “When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.”
    – George Bernard Shaw
  10. “A man may fail many times but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.”
    John Burroughs
  11. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.”
    J.K. Rowling
  12. “To be wrong is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”
    Confucius
  13. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
    Albert Einstein
  14. “Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.”
    Virgil Thomson
  15. “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.”
    Eloise Ristad
  16. “Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes and for your failures. You can’t go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else’s success as your failure is a cancerous way to live.”
    Kevin Bacon
  17. “A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools.”
    Douglas Adams
  18. “Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be.”
    John Wooden
  19. “I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustrations were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
    Anthony Robbins
  20. “Failure after long perseverance is much grander than never to have a striving good enough to be called a failure.”
    George Eliot
  21. “A man may fall many times, but he won’t be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.”
    Elmer G. Letterman
  22. “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing.”
    George Bernard Shaw
  23. “What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning – and some of them many times over – what do you find? That you can swim? Well – life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!”
    Alfred Adler
  24. “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”
    Robert T. Kiyosaki
  25. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
    Michael Jordan
  26. “Failure is nature’s plan to prepare you for great responsibilities.”
    Napoleon Hill
  27. “You’ll always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
    Wayne Gretzky
  28. “A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.”
    John C. Maxwell
  29. “There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.”
    Tom Krause
  30. “Success isn’t permanent and failure isn’t fatal.”
    Mike Ditka
  31. “Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”
    Winston Churchill
  32. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of a greater or equal benefit.”
    Napoleon Hill
  33. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk. In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.”
    Mark Zuckerberg
  34. “No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.”
    Chris Hardwick
  35. “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”
    Elbert Hubbard
  36. “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.”
    Mark Twain
  37. “Success builds character, failure reveals it.”
    Dave Checkett
  38. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
    Jack Canfield
  39. “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.”
    Ken Robinson
  40. “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.”
    Zig Ziglar
  41. “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
    Napoleon Hill

What is your favorite quote on failure? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

Culled from: Positivity Blog

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101 Inspiring Happiness Quotes

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The written word is truly an amazing thing.

With the help of it we can record out innermost thoughts and spread them if we like.

With the help of the written word we can look far, far back into time, through the decades, the centuries and, yes, even the millennias.

Today I would like to look back into the past and see what the wise people who have walked on this earth can tell us about happiness and how to uncover it.

No matter if you live today or lived two thousand years ago.

This is 101 of the most inspiring, touching and helpful thoughts from the past on happiness.

  1. “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
    Buddha
  2. “Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed.”
    Unknown
  3. “To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”
    Albert Camus
  4. “If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
    If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
    If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
    If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
    Chinese Proverb
  5. “The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
    Ashley Montagu
  6. “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
    Stacey Charter
  7. “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
    Dale Carnegie
  8. “It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.”
    Lucille Ball
  9. “Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”
    Winnie the Pooh
  10. “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”
    Epictetus
  11. “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
    Frederick Keonig
  12. “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”
    Thich Nhat Hanh
  13. “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”
    Eskimo Proverb
  14. “To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness.”
    Mary Stuart
  15. “There are more things to alarm us than to harm us, and we suffer more often in apprehension than reality.”
    Seneca
  16. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
    Robert A. Heinlein
  17. “Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.”
    Dennis Waitley
  18. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
    Mahatma Gandhi
  19. “The only joy in the world is to begin.”
    Cesare Pavese
  20. “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go”
    Oscar Wilde
  21. “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”
    Marthe Troly-Curtin
  22. “Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon”
    Winnie the Pooh
  23. “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
    Herman Cain
  24. “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
    Confucius
  25. “There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”
    Anthony de Mello
  26. “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”
    Dalai Lama
  27. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”
    Helen Keller
  28. “Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
    Aristotle
  29. “It is more fitting for a man to laugh at life than to lament over it.”
    Seneca
  30. “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.”
    Marcel Pagnol
  31. “If men would consider not so much wherein they differ, as wherein they agree, there would be far less of uncharitableness and angry feeling in the world.”
    Joseph Addison
  32. “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”
    George Burns
  33. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”
    Franklin D. Roosevelt
  34. “The pleasure which we most rarely experience gives us greatest delight.”
    Epictetus
  35. “It’s been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.”
    L.M. Montgomery
  36. “Happiness is acceptance.”
    Unknown
  37. “The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does.”
    James M. Barrie
  38. “We begin from the recognition that all beings cherish happiness and do not want suffering. It then becomes both morally wrong and pragmatically unwise to pursue only one’s own happiness oblivious to the feelings and aspirations of all others who surround us as members of the same human family. The wiser course is to think of others when pursuing our own happiness.”
    Dalai Lama
  39. “Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.”
    Dr. Robert Anthony
  40. “The unhappy derive comfort from the misfortunes of others.”
    Aesop
  41. “For many men, the acquisition of wealth does not end their troubles, it only changes them.”
    Seneca
  42. “A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?”
    Albert Einstein
  43. “Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.”
    Bertrand Russell
  44. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
    Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  45. “Happiness is a myth we seek,
    If manifested surely irks;
    Like river speeding to the plain,
    On its arrival slows and murks.
    For man is happy only in
    His aspiration to the heights;
    When he attains his goal, he cools
    And longs for other distant flights.”
    Kahlil Gibran
  46. “Happiness is a state of activity.”
    Aristotle
  47. “This planet has – or rather had – a problem, which was this: most of the people living on it were unhappy for pretty much of the time. Many solutions were suggested for this problem, but most of these were largely concerned with the movement of small green pieces of paper, which was odd because on the whole it wasn’t the small green pieces of paper that were unhappy.”
    Douglas Adams
  48. “Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.”
    Eleanor Roosevelt
  49. “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
    Confucius
  50. “The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom.”
    Arthur Schopenhauer
  51. “Men spend their lives in anticipations, in determining to be vastly happy at some period when they have time. But the present time has one advantage over every other – it is our own. Past opportunities are gone, future have not come. We may lay in a stock of pleasures, as we would lay in a stock of wine; but if we defer the tasting of them too long, we shall find that both are soured by age.”
    Charles Caleb Colton
  52. “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
    Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
  53. “Happy he who learns to bear what he cannot change.”
    Friedrich Schiller
  54. “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
    Winston Churchill
  55. “I’d far rather be happy than right any day.”
    Douglas Adams
  56. “Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”
    Andy Rooney
  57. “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.”
    James Oppenheim
  58. “Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
    Benjamin Disraeli
  59. “The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
    Martha Washington
  60. “Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.”
    Albert Schweitzer
  61. “Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy.”
    Heraclitus
  62. “Happiness is a how; not a what. A talent, not an object.”
    Herman Hesse
  63. “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”
    Aesop
  64. “Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
    Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  65. “Happiness is something that comes into our lives through doors we don’t even remember leaving open.”
    Rose Lane
  66. “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
    Albert Ellis
  67. “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”
    Groucho Marx
  68. “Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.”
    Unknown
  69. “Your work is discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”
    Buddha
  70. “That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.”
    Henry David Thoreau
  71. “Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.”
    Maxim Gorky
  72. “A quiet secluded life in the country, with the possibility of being useful to people to whom it is easy to do good, and who are not accustomed to have it done to them; then work which one hopes may be of some use; then rest, nature, books, music, love for one’s neighbor — such is my idea of happiness.”
    Leo Tolstoy
  73. “It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.”
    F. Scott Fitzgerald
  74. “If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires.”
    Epicurus
  75. “Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.”
    William Feather
  76. “Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic.”
    John Henry Jowett
  77. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
    Eleanor Roosevelt
  78. “And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”
    Confucius
  79. “If you are too busy to laugh, you are too busy.”
    Proverb
  80. “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
    Helen Keller
  81. “For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his/her happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time.
    If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.”
    Andy Rooney
  82. “Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.”
    Buddha
  83. “The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
    Andre Maurois
  84. “The grass is always greener where you water it.”
    Unknown
  85. “Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.”
    Marquis de Condorcet
  86. “On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind what you do.”
    Eckhart Tolle
  87. “The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life.”
    Brian Tracy
  88. “Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
    Marcel Proust
  89. “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
    George Bernard Shaw
  90. “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.”
    Leo Buscaglia
  91. “A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.”
    William Arthur Ward
  92. “Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.”
    Mary Lou Retton
  93. “I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives.”
    Dalai Lama
  94. “Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
    Joseph Campbell
  95. “Happiness consists of living each day as if it were the first day of your honeymoon and the last day of your vacation.”
    Leo Tolstoy
  96. “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
    Abraham Lincoln
  97. “Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”
    Unknown
  98. “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
    When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”
    Kahlil Gibran
  99. “If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.”
    Morris West
  100. “Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.”
    Milton Erickson
  101. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
    Mark Twain

What is your favorite quote on happiness? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

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Birthday Wish List

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Everybody has that list that looks like an exercise book. All the things you plan to do on your birthday especially when its the big 18,21,25,30 and so on. Of course,everybody’s wish list is different,depending on the level of maturity.

However,for me,the most important thing about a birthday is acknowledging the fact that you are still alive,i mean you have lived for more than 10,20 years,whatever the case may be. As you are about to mark this very memorable event in your life,keep this in mind. Don’t wait for people to celebrate you. celebrate yourself,make yourself feel special. Remember,that day is all about you and you alone. It’s a ‘make yourself happy’ day,nothing more. Don’t overstress it. Wake up in the morning,stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself,’happy birthday gorgeous. You’ve been amazing. Purely awesome in fact’. It’s not being vain. It’s called self love. Appreciate yourself,take some time out. If you’re not one to throw a party,order a large pizza with a tub of icecream and go crazy with it. Go to an arcade,there are so many things you could do. Don’t stay gloomy on that day. You can even do a thanksgiving in church or have your own little praise jam in your room..anything really. If no one gets you gifts,get yourself a gift.

Take a look at some random facts about ‘birthday’

  • The Golden Birthday; When your age and date of birth are the same
  • It is believed that a candle sends an individual’s prayer to the almighty. Hence, many wish before a blowing candle to let the almighty know about their desires. The candle, placed on a birthday cake in Germany was a symbolic representation of light of life.
  • On 23rd April, 1616, famous William Shakespeare took his last breath on his 52nd Birthday. Definitely a date to remember for all the people who love literature.
  • Birthday Cake– Many of us must have wondered that where actually Birthday Cakes have come into picture from? This actually came from ancient Greeks. The motive was quite simple. They made a beautiful round shaped cake with candles and offered Artemis, the Moon Goddess, to satisfy her.

  • Many would be surprised to hear that the most common birth date of the year is 5th of October which falls 9 months after the New Year’s Eve.
  • 15 million is the average number of people celebrating a birthday today (and every day around the world)!
  • In 1989, the world’s largest birthday cake was created to celebrate the 100th birthday of Fort Payne, Alabama.The cake weighed 128,238 pounds, 8 oz. and used 16,209 pounds of icing

Some Random Birthday Plans

  • Go see a movie
  • Go to the arcade and play some games with friends
  • Eat your heart out at a pizzeria and/or ice cream parlor
  • Spend your day with the less privileged. That’s called giving back
  • Go to church
  • Throw a small party at home
  • Amusement parks..You are never too old for that.
  • Go swimming
  • Go for a spa,manicure,pedicure. Spoil yourself silly

Basically,just do whatever suits you. But don’t go too crazy so you won’t start regretting the next day. Birthday gifts are up next

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#LADIES ONLY: Vlogging The Online Business That Nigerian ladies Ignore

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Nigerian graduates keep complaining of lack of jobs in the country and yet it’s as if the Government is doing little or nothing about it over the years. The truth is, there are little or no jobs at all for the fresh/old graduates of the country currently but does that mean that they should just stay idle and waste with their numerous skills, potentials and talents? Absolutely no! that is why in this article I have compiled step by step guide On Vlogging that Nigerian ladies should venture into instead of taking marriage as a career plan as some do these days.

Online, there are several jobs to do that can actually yield some manageable amount of income to survive food and house rent wise and later on career basis. Below we will be elaborating more in few points, step by step for Vlogging that best suits Nigerian ladies who have certain skills that needs an online audience and that can in turn yield them some cash for up keep.

  • What is Vlogging?

vlogging is a term that describes the act of making videos and uploading them to live streaming platforms such as Youtube, facebook, Instagram and more.

  1. Vlogging With Make-Up Videos:

I know what most females are currently thinking right now. “but I don’t know how to shoot/edit a video and besides I don’t have a laptop or desktop” well that has been resolved these days of ours where there are different Apps on the android and windows smartphones such as Viva Video app , BeautyPlus and more. As a young lady that has the skills of making people up for weddings and other ceremonies, it is high time you create a job online for yourself.

HOW?

By simply taking coverage of your make up jobs and other skills with your phone whenever you get a contract to make someone up at any event or even in your spare time. If you can’t afford a tripod to stable your smartphone while videoing, you can plead with a friend to help you video the make up process while you explain what you are doing in the video.

WHAT NEXT?

After making the video, then it’s time to get to Youtube to upload your video. If you don’t have a gmail, sign up and have one. It’s pretty simple. After that;

Visit youtube.com

Login at youtube using your Gmail

Establish your dashboard with the necessary details/descriptions to help your potential audience understand what your youtube channel is all about.

Upload your video using the “upload” button on the youtube dashboard.

 

BUT HOW DO I EARN FROM ALL THESE?

I know you have been thinking of this all along the above processes of vlogging. Well, it’s easy to monetize videos on youtube as it’s integrated with Google Adsense through which you can earn some cash as your channel pulls lots and lots of views to itself. To achieve this, you can use the monetization button on the dashboard to achieve that.

Note: after applying to Google Adsense to approve your channel, it may take 24hrs or days/weeks before they reply or approve/disapprove it.

 

How Can I get Viewers to My Youtube Videos?

Uploading your videos on Youtube is not enough as you need to copy the link of the video and share on different platforms such as facebook, twitter, instagram, and the rest of them. From there, some persons may pick interest and watch and as well subscribe to your channel and share with friends. Just start with this first and see how it goes.

When you venture into Vlogging as a young lady, you have a lot more chances as your audience and the views your videos pull will also attract advertisers to your channel who may want you to upload their business short clip on your channel as they pay. Don’t let your skills/talents waste while you can actually male something out of it.

 

What’s your thought on this Business idea for Nigerian ladies?

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We Are Meant For The Skies

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A chauffeur worked for a woman who liked to take her cat with her on errands.

During one trip, the uniformed driver dropped her at a shopping mall before refueling. The cat remained in the car, lounging on top of the limousine’s back seat.

The confused service station attendant stole several glances at the feline passenger relaxing in back. Finally, he asked: “Sir, is that cat someone important?”

I don’t know about the cat, but I’ve wasted too many years not feeling especially important. Not that I am or ever have been any more important than anybody else. But my low self esteem as a child and young adult always had me wishing I could measure up to others. I failed to see who I really was and struggled to become the person I felt I could be.

The following story reminds me how important a healthy self-image really is:

A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eagle hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life, the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he thrashed his wings and flew a few feet in the air.

Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong, golden wings. 

The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked. 

“That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbor. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth – we’re chickens.” 

So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that is what he thought he was. (Author unknown)

You and I were meant for the skies – not the chicken coop. Who will believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself?

— Steve Goodier

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The Winning Attitude

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”Winning doesn’t always mean being first. Winning means you are doing better than you’ve done before”(www.quotesvalley.com)

Success in every facet of life, starts by first developing and maintaining an expectant attitude of success. Simply put, if you want to succeed,you should expect that you are going to succeed, and because of this you will consistently take the actions that lead you to achieve their goals and become successful.

Winners never quit and quitters never win. It’s that simple. The hurdles and struggles are a part of your story,your thank you speech,your cookbook. Winston Churchill says; ”The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty”.

Now,what is the difference between a pessimist and an optimist? An optimist built the aeroplane,the pessimist built the parachute. Point being that,unless you are ready to push yourself beyond what you are used to,you are not ready to become a winner. Take a look at some tips for a winning attitude

  • Optimism; This of course is the first. In order to be able to achieve anything,you must believe in that thing and in yourself too. regardless of what happens,you should stay positive and continue striving ahead. Convince yourself that you can do it
  • Stop over worrying; its okay to worry a little bit because that pushes you to do better but do not over do it to the point where you convince yourself to give up. Carefully monitor your thoughts right before you fall asleep at night and first thing in the morning.  Then ask yourself, “What am I asking from the universe every single day?”  Chances are, what you are dwelling on has already shown up in your life.
  • Don’t play the blame game; stop making excuses for yourself by playing the blame card. only a lazy person would continue blaming the government and lack of resources as the reason why he sleeps at home all day. necessity as they say,is the mother of invention. as long as you are determined to achieve something,you will do it. Also,do not allow pride limit your chances of exploring opportunities. its everywhere,just grab one and make the best out of it
  • Have genuine passion for what you want to do; don’t follow someone else’s dreams. Work on yours and make it awesome. you are the best version of you there is so make the best out of it. Throw the ”average” sentiment away. You are beyond average.
  • Do not have a feeling of entitlement; don’t play the ‘my daddy is rich’ or ‘i have an inheritance’ card. work for your own money,achieve your own things because the feeling of owning something that you worked hard for is a feeling of bliss and ecstasy. Your parents have worked for their own money,now its your turn to make something out of yourself.
  • Don’t procrastinate; when you want to embark on a journey to success,you don’t procrastinate. successful people don’t postpone their activities. they do it as soon as possible because time waits for no one
  • Set your goals and try to achieve them within the stipulated time
  • Choose friends that motivate you and push you to be better than you already are
  • And finally,don’t forget God. In everything you do,always pray and dedicate it all to God to see you through and by His grace,you’ll make it

 

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Dangerous Addiction

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What’s that one thing you absolutely can’t do without? that thing that occupies your mind 24/7. You know it’s not good for you but you can’t help it. It just draws you in ‘like a moth to flame’
Most times, people only term the really bad stuff as addicting without paying mind to the little things we do that if we miss for a day, we might go crazy. For example, they say too much alcohol is bad for you, too much sex, masturbation, smoking, lying, stealing will kill you but what happens to the obsessive use of makeup that damages your skin cells/ or the addiction to junk food that gets you obese ,the excessive TV watching that spoils your eyes, the addiction to social media that takes you away from real life, everyday intake of sugar that gives you diabetes, obsession with making money that practically spells your doom or even the OCD[obsessive compulsive disorder]. Nobody is perfect. Even the most innocent ones have one addiction or the other.
The point is, an addiction is an addiction regardless of its nature and it is always dangerous because it becomes like a crazed obsession you can’t get rid of. However, here’s what you should do when you start noticing that it’s getting out of hand

  • See a therapist; talk to a therapist who will try to help you get over your addiction so it doesn’t kill you. A therapist will be able to provide option n what you should do to ensure that you live a normal life.
  • Get new hobbies that are less addicting; try to choose a new hobby that is relaxing and impactful, a hobby that adds something meaningful to your life. Try something new every once in a while.
  • Try to indulge less frequently; If it’s something you do every hour, try reducing it to once in 12 hours until you’re able to go a day without it, then a week, month and till you don’t need it anymore
  • Write down the harmful effects of your addiction and how you plan to change; think about your experiences since the addiction started what you’ve lost both financially, physically and emotionally. List the ways it has hurt you mentally. Then write steps on how you can avoid all the things that led you to it and make a daily reminder so you won’t have a relapse. Make a list of the positive changes you’ll make after dropping your habits
  • Set a date to quit; don’t pick a date to quit when you know you won’t follow it. Do not procrastinate either. Pick the right date when you’re mentally and physically prepared and stick to it. Start from somewhere. Pick a date that’s meaningful to you as well so that it can serve as a source of motivation for you.
  • Get your environment ready; get rid of all things that can prevent you from achieving your goal. You don’t need such distractions, rather, replace them with something calm
  • Don’t give in to rationalizations; yes, it’s hard to quit but when you get to a point of frustration, don’t give up. Calm down and take a deep breath. Don’t start making horrid excuses to return to your vomit. You’ve started and there’s no looking back.

 

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How to Stop Procrastinating: 7 Timeless Tips

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“Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.”
Spanish Proverb

“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.”
Martin Luther

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”
Karen Lamb

One of the most common problems is procrastination. We know what we want to do and should do. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing “easier” work or escaping via TV, blogs or music.

Now, nothing wrong with a little escape from time to time. But if you procrastinate too much you will not get the most important things done. And you will also send yourself into negative spirals where your self-esteem plummets and you spend your days or more in a vague negative funk.

So what can you do? Here are 7 timeless tips to help you to stop procrastinating and start living your life more fully. And if you want to then you can learn much more about becoming more productive, focused and minimizing stress in my training kit The Art of Relaxed Productivity.

  1. Stop thinking. Start doing.

“To think too long about doing a thing often becomes its undoing.”
Eva Young

A bit of planning can certainly help you to achieve what you want to achieve. A lot of planning and thinking tends to have the opposite effect.

You think and think and try to come up with “the perfect plan”. A plan where you don’t have to make mistakes, where you will never be rejected, where there will be no pain or difficulties. Such a thing does of course not exist. But as long as you work on that plan you can protect yourself.

  1. Don’t blow a task out of proportion.

“If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.”
Olin Miller

”Putting off an easy thing makes it hard. Putting off a hard thing makes it impossible.”
George Claude Lorimer

By over thinking and putting things off you are not only trying to protect yourself from pain. You also make mountains out of molehills. The quotes above are so true it isn’t even funny. The more hours and days you put something off the worse it grows in your mind.

Because you are dwelling on it. And so it expands in your mind. And since you are putting it off you are probably thinking about it in a negative way. This makes a little thing a big Godzilla, a horrible beast that is threatening to ruin your life.

So plan a little and then take action.

Often you don’t even have to plan, you have been there before and you know what needs to be done. So stop thinking and just do it no matter how you feel and what you think. How you feel right now changes as quickly as the weather so it’s not the perfect guidance system or anything. And you don’t have to obey what it says (it’s not chains made of iron). You can just do what you know is right anyway.

  1. Just take the first step.

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

When you start to look too far into the future any task or project can seem close to impossible. And so you shut down because you become overwhelmed and start surfing the internet aimlessly instead. That is one of the reasons why it is good to plan for the future but then to shift your focus back to today and the present moment.

Then you just focus on taking the first step today. That is all you need to focus on, nothing else. By taking the first step you change you mental state from resistant to “hey, I’m doing this, cool”. You put yourself in state where you become more positive and open, a state where you may not be enthusiastic about taking the next step after this first one but you are at least accepting it. And so you can take the next step. And the next one after that.

The thing is, you can’t see the whole staircase anyway and it will shift and reveal itself along the way. That’s why the best of plans tend to fall apart at least a bit as you start to put it into action. You discover that your map of reality doesn’t look like reality.

  1. Start with the hardest task of your day.

“Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.”
Dale Carnegie

Maybe you have an important call to make that you also fear might be uncomfortable. Maybe you know you have gotten behind on answering your emails and have big pile to dig into. Maybe you have the last five pages of your paper to finish.

Whatever it may be, get it out of your way the first thing you do.

If you start your day this way you will feel relieved. You feel relaxed and good about yourself. And the rest of the day – and your to-do list – tends to feel a lot lighter and easier to move through. It’s amazing what difference this one action makes.

  1. Just make a decision. Any decision.

“In a moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing to do, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Theodore Roosevelt

We feel bad when we sit on our hands and don’t take action because it’s unnatural. The natural thing is to be a decisive human and take action.

When you procrastinate you want to do something but you don’t take the action that is in alignment with that thought. You become conflicted within.

What you do always sends signals back to you about who you are. Sure, doing affirmations where you say to yourself that you are confident can help you. But taking the confident actions you want to take over and over again is what really builds your self confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. When you procrastinate you lower your self esteem and send signals back to yourself that you are a ,well, a kinda lame and indecisive person.

  1. Face your fear.

“Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the “someday I’ll” philosophy.”
Denis Waitley

I think this is true. It’s easier to live on that “someday…” thought. It’s harder to just take action. To risk looking like a fool. To make mistakes, stumble and not avoid that pain. To take responsibility for your own life.

The easier choice can come with a sense of comfort, with a certain level of success, pangs of regret for all the things you never dared to do and a vague sense of being unfulfilled. You wonder about what would have happened if you had taken more action and more chances.

The harder choice gives you, well, who knows? But it will sure make your feel more alive.

  1. Finish it.

“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task”
William James

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started.”
David Allen

Not taking the first step to start accomplishing something can make you feel bad. But not finishing what you have started can also leave you in a sort of negative funk. You feel fatigued or stressed and sometimes you don’t even know why. It’s like someone zapped your inner power.

If that is the case, go over tasks and projects what you are currently involved in. Is there something there you know you want to finish but haven’t yet? Try to get that finished as soon as you can you will start to feel a whole lot better.

Just be careful. Don’t think you have to finish everything you started. If a book sucks, read something else. Using this as an excuse to quit something that feels hard or unfamiliar is not a good idea. But there is no law that says that everything has to be completed.

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7 Common Habits of Unhappy People

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“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Marcel Proust

Circumstances can certainly make life unhappy. But a part – often a big part – of unhappiness comes from our own thinking, behavior and habits.

In this article I’d like to share 7 of the most destructive daily habits that can create quite a bit of unhappiness within and in your own little world.

But I’ll also share what has worked, what has helped me to minimize or overcome these habits in my life.

1. Aiming for perfection.

Does life has to be perfect before you are happy?

Do you have to behave in a perfect way and get perfect results to be happy?

Then happiness will not be easy to find. Setting the bar for your performance at an inhuman level usually leads to low self-esteem and feeling like you are not good enough even though you may have had a lot of good or excellent results. You and what you do is never enough good enough except maybe once in a while when feels like something goes just perfect.

How to overcome this habit:

Three things that helped me to kick the perfectionism habit and become more relaxed:

  • Go for good enough. Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.
  • Have a deadline. I set deadlines every time that start with a new premium guide. Because about a year ago, when I was working on my second e-book, I realized that just working on it and releasing it when it was done would not work. Because I could always find stuff to add to it. So I had to set a deadline. Setting a deadline gave me a kick in the butt and it is generally good way to help you to let go of a need to polish things a bit too much.
  • Realize what it costs you when you buy into myths of perfection. This was a very powerful reason for me to let go of perfectionism and one I tell myself still if I find thoughts of perfection pop up in my mind. By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it.
    But in real life it clashes with reality and tends to cause much suffering and stress within you and in the people around you. It can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world. I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact.

2. Living in a sea of negative voices.

No one is an island. Who we socialize with, what we read, watch and listen to has big effect on how we feel and think.

It becomes a lot harder to be happier if you let yourself be dragged down by negative voices. Voices that tell you that life will in large part always be unhappy, dangerous and filled with fear and limits. Voices that watch life from a negative perspective.

How to overcome this habit:

Replacing those negative voices with more positive influences is very powerful. It can be like a whole new world opening up.

So spend more time with positive people, inspiring music and books, movies and TV-shows that make you laugh and think about life in a new way.

You can start small. For example, try reading an uplifting blog or book or listen to an audio book while eating your breakfast one morning this week instead of reading the paper or watching the morning news on TV.

3. Getting stuck in the past and future too much.

Spending much of your time in the past and reliving old painful memories, conflicts, missed opportunities and so on can hurt whole lot. Spending much of your time in the future and imagining how things could go wrong at work, in your relationships and with your health can build into horrifying nightmare scenarios playing over and over in your head. Not being here right now in life as it happens can lead to missing out on a lot of wonderful experiences.

No good if you want to be happier.

How to overcome this habit:

It is pretty much impossible to not think about the past or the future. And it is of course important to plan for tomorrow and next year and to try to learn from your past.

But to dwell on those things rarely help.

So I try as best as I can to spend the rest of my time, the big part of my time each day, with living in the now. Just being here right now and being fully focused on these words I am writing and later as I cook and eat my lunch and work out be fully focused on doing that.

Whatever I am doing I try to be there fully and not drift off into the future or past.

If I do drift off then I focus only on my breathing for a few minutes or I sit still and take in what is all around me right now with all my senses for a short while. By doing either of those things I can realign myself with the present moment again.

4. Comparing yourself and your life to others and their lives.

One very common and destructive daily habit is to constantly compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on. And at the end of the day you pummel your self-esteem to the ground and you create a lot of negative feelings.

How to overcome this habit:

Replace that destructive habit with two other habits.

  • Compare yourself to yourself. First, instead of comparing yourself to other people create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals. This habit has the benefit of creating gratitude, appreciation and kindness towards yourself as you observe how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome and the good stuff you have done.
    You feel good about yourself without having to think less of other people.
  • Be kind. In my experience, the way you behave and think towards others seems to have a big, big effect on how you behave towards yourself and think about yourself. Judge and criticize people more and you tend to judge and criticize yourself more (often almost automatically). Be more kind to other people and help them and you tend to be more kind and helpful to yourself.
    Focus on the positive things in yourself and in the people around you. Appreciate what is positive in yourself and others. This way you become more OK with yourself and the people in your world instead of ranking them and yourself and creating differences in your mind.

And remember, you can’t win if you keep comparing. Just consciously realizing this can be helpful. No matter what you do you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that has more than you or are better than you at something.

5. Focusing on the negative details in life.

Seeing the negative aspects of whichever situation you are in and dwelling on those details is a sure way to make yourself unhappy. And to drag down the mood for everyone around you.

How to overcome this habit:

Overcoming this habit can be tricky. One thing that has worked for me is to kick the perfectionism habit. You accept that things and situations will have their upsides and downsides rather than thinking that all details have to positive and excellent. You accept things as they are. This way you can let go emotionally and mentally of what is negative instead of dwelling on it and making mountains out of molehills.

Another thing that works is simply to focus on being constructive. Instead of focusing on dwelling and whining about the negative detail. You can do so by asking better questions. Questions like:

How can I turn this negative thing into something helpful or positive?
How can I solve this problem?

If I am faced with what I start thinking is a problem I may use a third solution, I may ask myself: who cares? I most often then realize that this isn’t really a problem in the long run at all.

6. Limiting life because you believe the world revolves around you.

If you think that the world revolves around you and you hold yourself back because you are afraid what people may think or say if you do something that different or new then you are putting some big limits on your life. How?

Well, you can become less open to trying new things and growing.You can think that the criticism and negativity you encounter is about you or that it is your fault all the time (while it in reality could be about the other person having bad week or you thinking that you can read minds). I have also found that my own shyness used to come from me thinking that people cared a great deal about what I was about to say or do.

How to overcome this habit:

  • Realize people don’t care too much about what you do. They have their hands full with worrying about their own lives and what people may think of them instead. Yes, this might make you feel less important in your own head. But it also sets you free a bit more if you’d like that.
  • Focus outward. Instead of thinking about yourself and how people may perceive you all the time, focus outward on the people around you. Listen to them and help them. This will help you to raise your self-esteem and help you to reduce that self-centered focus.

7. Overcomplicating life.

Life can be pretty complicated. This can creates stress and unhappiness. But much of this is often created by us. Yes, the world may be becoming more complex but that doesn’t mean that we cannot create new habits that make your own lives a bit simpler.

How to overcome this habit:

Overcomplicating life can involve many habits but I’d like to suggest a few replacement habits to what have been a couple of my own most overcomplicating habits.

  • Splitting your focus and having your attention all over the place in everyday life. I replaced that complicating habit with just doing one thing at a time during my day, having a small to-do list with 2-3 very important items and writing down my most important goal on white board that I see each day.
  • Having too much stuff. I replaced that habit with regularly asking myself: have I used this in the past year? If not then I will give that thing away or throw it away.
  • Creating relationship problems of any kind in your mind. Reading minds is hard. So, instead ask questions and communicate. This will help you to minimize unnecessary conflicts, misunderstandings, negativity and waste or time and energy.
  • Getting lost in the in-box. I spend less time and energy on my email in-box by just checking it once a day and writing shorter emails (if possible not more than 5 sentences.)
  • Getting lost in stress and overwhelm. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind then, as I mentioned above, breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again. Then you can start focusing on doing what is most important for you again.
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Overcoming The Moody Fever

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”everybody hates me. they won’t let me do what i want. i guess they are tired of me. no one loves me. maybe i’ll cut myself to get their attention. it hurts for a little while but then i get woozy,the blood starts flowing and i feel silence..like no one is there to judge me. it’s my own bliss,the only place i can escape to”.

Feeling down is a natural part of life. People hurt us,things go wrong,we lose people we really love through break ups or death or we are unable to accomplish the dreams and goals we set in our mind. However,when depression starts occurring frequently in our lives and prevents us from having interactions with people or even enjoying one’s life,there is a problem.

Now,depression is the cause of many suicides and unfulfilled dreams today.  However,it is a highly curable condition. It is not a mood matter neither is it caused out of boredom. People in this condition should be treated with utmost cautiousness because the slightest issue can set them off.

There are some mistakes that individuals who suffer from depression make which are;

  • they believe their problems are theirs and theirs alone
  •  they choose pain as an option to forget loss
  • they overdo everything[eating,medication,spending]
  • they think the world wouldn’t understand
  • they ignore professional help and medication
  • they take to extreme decisions like suicide
  • they make unreasonable demands and become attention seeking
  • they indulge in activities that leave them feeling more depressed
  • they isolate themselves
  • they feel worthless and unloved

The most popular word for someone in this situation is ”you wouldn’t understand’‘. I probably wouldn’t but that’s not the crux of the matter. Research has proven that majority of young people are the ones who suffer depression for reasons that go as far as bullying and peer pressure. But then,rather than dwell on the issue of being depressed,here are some proffered solutions to getting over it

  • Get help; go see a doctor. Do not ever try to kill yourself. It is the worst option out there,in fact do not make it an option. If you feel like you are not comfortable around a doctor,talk to a trusted friend. Letting it all out helps. you can also try writing it on a piece of paper and burning it. If your depression has its roots in losing someone,try to remember that all the person would want is for you to be happy. If something hurts,talk about it. don’t hide it beneath a fake smile.
  • Find a hobby
  • Eat healthy
  • Always stay occupied
  • Engage in fun activities; Ever heard of a bucket list? Why not try to make a list of things to do before you get to a certain age?Try fun and safe things that are a bit out of your comfort zone. Play football,go swimming,do sports.
  • Kill your inner critic; If your inner critic is one that has a destructive influence of your mind,channel it out.It could lead you to thinking no one wants you or loves you. Stop punishing yourself. Fill your mind with positive,happy and encouraging words and thoughts.
  • Surround yourself with positive people; Try to avoid negative people and communicate only with positive and encouraging people that can help you grow to be the best version of you there is. Be with people who push you to achieve a good and satisfactory purpose in life. Be with people who remind you that you are awesome and amazing.
  • Finally,love yourself. No one can love you more than the way you love yourself. regardless of what you might have done in the past,learn to forgive yourself and those who hurt you in order to move on with your life. constantly remind yourself that you are loved,that you are special. In fact,there is a small ritual you should perform each morning. stand in front of a mirror every morning and speak positive things to yourself. It works wonders.

 

 

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