15 Reasons to quit smoking weed


It is not uncommon for people to smoke these days but what is totally worrisome  is how youngsters are completely unaware about the possible side-effects of smoking marijuana (weed) regularly. If you among those who pride themselves on being a pothead by smoking marijuana you are putting yourself at the risk of the below listed consequences in the long run.

We have come up with a list of 15 reasons why you should quit smoking weed.

1. It costs money

Weed is an expensive habit to have and it is way more expensive than cigarette smoking, but just as harmful.

2. It makes you dependent

People try to pretend that this is not true, but you start depending on it to have fun, to enjoy activities and soon enough you need it all the time.

3. You strengthen your willpower

One of the most important things we have in life is our willpower. If we are unable to exercise that, we are never going to be able to get through difficult things in life.

4. No more paranoia

Weed smokers say that only amateur smokers get paranoia, but why would you want to smoke so much that you learn to control a substance that is more harmful than good anyways?

5. Avoid trouble at work

So many companies perform random drug tests now that it has become quite difficult for weed smokers to be able to hold jobs in many industries. Smoking weed is just not worth the hassle.

6. Regain mental sharpness

Weed smokers mention how they have a hard time remembering things and keeping track of very basic information in their short term memory.

7. It ruins your ambition

Yes, it has been widely known that smoking weed makes you less ambitious and more likely to just want to sit down or lay down doing nothing.

8. Regain control of your dietary habits

The “munchies” are quite a common side effect of weed and most people tend to eat junk food to satisfy the extreme food cravings they get when they smoke it.

9. Feel energized again

Weed smoking makes a person very lethargic and their energy levels fall significantly. You are never going to hear any pot smoker saying that smoking marijuana makes them feel energized and full of life.

10. Get rid of other bad habits

If you have the courage to stop smoking weed, you can probably do the same thing with alcohol and tobacco or any other harmful addictions you might have. This is going to be very important if you want to have success in life.

11. Stop hiding

You will be able to stop living with this secret that so many people would alienate you for sharing. Keep in mind that the vast majority of people find drugs to be a terrible habit.

12. Avoid legal issues

Do you really want to end up in court defending yourself for having weed in your vehicle or for any issues related to purchasing weed from a dealer? We know the answer to that one is no.

13. Regain your self-respect

People don’t like to admit this, but when they have a bad habit and a harmful vice controls their lives, they lose their self-respect and it’s important to regain that.

14. Clear your lungs

Smoking marijuana is terrible for your lungs and if you are considering a way to consume marijuana without smoking it, then you are definitely hooked to it. Why not just quit?

15. Improve your personal appearance

Your face looks bad when you smoke weed. You look like you’ve had no sleep even if you have been sleeping 8 hours a night. When you stop smoking weed your whole personal appearance is way better.


Being able to quit smoking weed is going to be one of the best things you could do for your health but physically and mentally. Never forget that a strong willpower will help you evolve as a person.

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How To Be A Strong Independent Woman That Men Can’t Resist


If there is one thing that takes men by storm these days, it is an independent woman, those kinds of ladies make men stop in their tracks and fall hopelessly in love with their brilliance and mind. Independent women are not defined by their circumstances, they find the best in their situations and work hard at improving themselves while retaining their inner strength and ethical values.

Want to be an independent woman? you will have to make some changes in your everyday life in order to become a strong, independent woman. Below are some steps on how to turn yourself into an envied, strong independent woman that men love.

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Do not neglect your career: “A career doesn’t have to mean a fancy job, whether you

are working night shifts or working a 9-5 job, always strive to be really great at it, work hard and keep your eye on the future”.

Don’t let haters get to you: “Social media has exposed a lot of people to haters and sadly, independent ladies are always victims of such attacks but, they never let it get to them and you shouldn’ too, don’t give it the attention that it needs to survive and just in case you participate in cyber bullying, know that it is wrong, abusive and harmful”.

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Don’t neglect your physical needs: “It is very important that you don’t neglect your physiological and health needs, the fact is that your body needs sleep, water, food and your body needs to unwind and relax, neglecting these isn’t just stupid; it’s reckless, silly, and not something that a strong, independent girl does at all as relaxing and unwinding lets your mind restore itself so that it can be fighting fit the next day. And most importantly ladies, so take the time to look good and dress fashionably”.

Provide for yourself: “This one is taking the term ‘independent’ literally if you want to be this type of woman, then you have to literally provide everything for yourself because you can’t rely on anyone else for money, a home, or even happiness and if you really want men to love you, you’ll be able to provide everything you need yourself as this takes the pressure off of your guy to ‘be the man’ and provide everything because sometimes, he can’t, this lets him know that you’re not with him for his money or assets, you’re with him for him”.

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New research claims Instagram is bad for young people’s mental health

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According to a new report by the Royal Society for Public Health (RSPH) in the UK, Instagram is the most detrimental social networking app for young people’s mental health, followed closely by Snapchat.

Their study, #StatusofMind, surveyed almost 1500 young people aged 14 to 24 on how certain social media platforms impact health and wellbeing issues such as anxiety, depression, self-identity and body image. 
YouTube was found to have the most positive impact, while Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and Twitter all demonstrated negative affects overall on young people’s mental health.
In a chat with CNN, Matt Keracher, author of the report said, ‘Instagram draws young women to compare themselves against unrealistic, largely curated, filtered and Photoshopped versions of reality’.
“Instagram easily makes girls and women feel as if their bodies aren’t good enough as people add filters and edit their pictures in order for them to look ‘perfect” an anonymous female respondent said in the report.
To tackle the problem, the RSPH has called for social media platforms to take action in order to help combat young users’ feelings of inadequacy and anxiety by placing a warning on images that have been digitally manipulated.

“We’re not asking these platforms to ban Photoshop or filters, but rather to let people know when images have been altered so that users don’t take the images on face value as real. We really want to equip young people with the tools and the knowledge to be able to navigate social media platforms not only in a positive way but in a way that promotes good mental health,” Keracher said.

The survey concluded that while Instagram negatively affected body image, sleep patterns and added to a sense of “FOMO” — the fear of missing out — the image app was also a positive outlet for self-expression and self-identity for many of its young users.
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You can catch std’s from your man’s beard!


Wearing a beard seems to be the rave of the moment among men, especially the young men.

These days, men scrape off their heads while spotting buoyant, well-nurtured beards.

Yet, experts are saying that though a well-groomed beard may appear sexy, it also  has the potential to be a breeding ground for germs, causing fungal infections and herpes.

Indeed, physicians warn that they can even carry pubic lice!

Dermatologists indeed say that a very thick beard may disguise symptoms of skin disease, and anyone who comes into close contacts with it risks being infected.

A dermatologist, Dr. Debra Jaliman, notes, “If a guy doesn’t groom his moustache and beard properly, they can become a breeding grounds for germs.

“Though the risk is small, chin and cheek hair can harbour germs that can cause infections such as herpes, fungal infections, or even a dangerous Staphylococcus infection. If you come in direct contact with any of these infectious agents, you may end up with skin problems.”

Jaliman adds that the problem partly has to do with the wiry hairs that trap sweat, bodily fluids, even bits of food, all of which serve as breeding grounds for microbes.

Another problem, Jaliman says, is that thick facial hair can camouflage symptoms of a transmissible skin issue that isn’t directly related to the beard or moustache itself, such as redness that could be from yeast or a herpes sore.

If the man doesn’t notice the signs, he could inadvertently infect his sex partner with it.

Other things you can get from hipster facial hair include warts and impetigo.

Again, she says, a bristly beard can cause irritation and a rash when rubbed against his partner’s face, which can trigger pink bumps and chafing.

How to groom facial hair

• Wash with soap at least once a day

• Inspect it regularly (say, after meals, for instance) to make sure no particles or dirt are trapped between the hairs.

• Before you engage in any direct contact with his beard, ensure that the skin around and under it is healthy, with no redness, bumps, or blisters.

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7 Tips To Perfectly Enjoy A Lagos Owambe Party

Lagos Owambe Party

Lagos Owambe Party: Whether you’re planning on celebrating a wedding, birthday, anniversary or joyous moment, you definitely will want to invite people to celebrate with you. If you do get invited to an‘owambe’ party in Lagos, there’s a need for you to know what is expected of you so that you can have the best experience possible.

Owambe’s are serious business in Lagos and you don’t want to be caught missing in action at such events. Dump your pride at home and follow these steps to experience the best at every single party.

Don’t Be Late

With African Timing ingrained into the DNA’s of a typical Nigerian, be rest assured the party will start late. It is however important you arrive early if you up to get a good seat from where you can take in everything that’s happening at the party. Don’t forget to go with a fully charged phone and perhaps a power bank, if you hope to capture photographs and still have your phones charged.

The Aso-ebi is Important

If you want to get special treatment at the party and leave the place with all the branded and unbranded souvenirs shared at the place, make sure you purchase the Aso-ebi which may be Ankara, or lace materials. Doing this guarantees the food to get to you first ahead of people not wearing the aso-ebi.

Get Some Clean Notes
You’d definitely want to indulge in the Nigerian culture of spraying money on the celebrants. If you can’t get clean Naira notes, don’t worry as there would be some women at the entrance to the hall who will change your dirty notes into clean ones for a fee. Get your money changed into any denomination you’re comfortable with and spend the much you can. The celebrants will appreciate you for this gesture and you can walk away with pride.

Owambe’s Are About The Food

One of the reasons why people throng to owambe’s is that they want to eat a good ‘party meal’. You will hear a lot of people forming bosses say that “I can buy this food outside if I want” but the truth is there’s something special and different about the party meals which makes everyone long for it especially the party jollof rice.

Eat as much as is available and savour the moment because the party is mostly about Item 7.

Tip The Food Servers
If you find the food and drinks servers strolling past you, get the attention of one and give him a small tip. Your story at the party will have an immediate turn around and you’d get the best of food, drinks and wine available at the party. If you’re even lucky enough, you may get a packed meal and drinks to take home with you.

Set Your  Home Training Aside
While you may have been properly groomed and trained by your parents to be as subtle and dignified as possible, it is best you set aside your home training when you attend an owambe party. Call the attention of food servers if you’re not being served on time or you may just leave the party hungry.

When you finally get served, dig into the meal like it’s your last especially if you decided to order semo, pounded yam or any of the local delicacies requiring you to eat with your hands. Forget your home training and eat like it’s your last, everyone is probably busy with their food to take note of you anyways. If you are not satisfied with the first plate, order for an extra plate. Enjoy your meals and remember to dance your heart out when your favourite song comes on.

Remember To Eat The Party Jollof

No matter your choice of food, never pass off an opportunity to have a taste of jollof rice at the party. Nothing feels better than eating party jollof rice which has its own unique flavour and taste and you definitely don’t want to miss that for anything in the world.

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15 Secrets to Make That First Kiss More Memorable


A kiss is not just a kiss. Well,it depends on how you do it. Polls have shown that at least 40% of people in the early twenties have not had their first kiss..oops!

Now you’re scared and confused on hw to go about it. Of course you don’t wanna mess it up and the advice your friend gave you…”let him lead” isn’t just working for you. You want more so you go through google to find some useful tips. well then,have some!

If you’ve shared a first kiss with a special someone, you’d know the emotions associated with it.

Your heart starts to race, you feel confused and almost dizzy, and on the other extreme, you have no idea how your date would respond.

Would they kiss you back? Or would they stick a tongue in so deep it would make you gag?

Why is the first kiss such a big deal?

A first kiss creates a relationship. It’s like a bond that’s sealed with a kiss. Literally!

You may not know this, but a first kiss can actually predict the chemistry and the sexual excitement of both the kissers. If both of you are excited to kiss each other and are sexually attracted to each other, a first kiss is almost always perfect.

But if one of you isn’t ready for a kiss, even if there’s a lot of sexual chemistry in the air, the whole kissing experience could end in a fizzle.

Its like taking a plunge into dark waters. There’s no way you can ever tell what would happen unless you take the plunge. The plunge may be a mystery, but you can still turn the odds in your favor by making all the right moves before the kiss.


 Try to warm your date up to the kiss. As long as you play it safe and take your time, you’ll see the right potential come right through.


Plan ahead. A first kiss never pops right out of the blue,it’s sloppy that way. Even if it seems like an unplanned heat of the moment thing, the setting you create around each other is what gives you the opportunity.

The best time to kiss a date or a friend is when you’ve spent quite a while with each other, either on a date or while watching a movie at home because that gives both of you enough time to warm up towards each other. And most importantly, you need to find a way to get some alone time with no one around. Plan ahead so both of you can get some alone time at the end of the date, either in the car, a lonely park bench or at your place.

#2 Build the sexual tension. Your date must want to kiss you back, or at the least, you must know that your date would reciprocate it before you try kissing. Try to sit close to your date. It’s a great way to pass your sexual vibes to them. And most importantly, speak in a low and soft voice. Speaking softly is a natural turn on. Talk about how wonderful you feel spending time with this person, or talk about how enjoyable the day was

Avoid distractions. Distractions are the bane of first kisses. Isolate yourself in the moment and make sure your date isn’t thinking of anything other than this beautiful moment with you.

#4 Location. The location plays a big part in a first kiss. If you play your cards well, a first kiss could lead to a lot more within minutes and if you don’t want it to turn into something more,avoid extremely lonely locations. If people walking past you bothers you, kiss your date in a parking lot or in your place. But make sure you keep the location in mind if you want to go beyond just a first kiss.

Hygiene. Bad breath ruins any chances of a first kiss. If you’re planning to kiss your date after a garlic-infused dinner or a long drive, make sure you pop a breath mint into your mouth. If you want to make your first kiss feel a lot sexier, drink a sip of water a few seconds before trying to kiss your date. It makes your lips feel moist and a lot more kissable. ooh! And eat mints too,preferably fruit flavored(strawberry,pineapple)

#6 The right kind of touch. The way you touch your boo while trying to cozy up with them makes all the difference in a perfect first kiss. Constantly touch your date on their arms or play with their fingers. If you’re the guy,caress her cheeks,her neck and always look into her eyes like you’re tryna find something there. Let your date feel comfortable with your touch, and even like it. And once you’re feeling bold enough to go for the kiss, whisper in their ears now and then or play with their hair. Nothing sends the kissing signal out better than that.

#7 Help your date read your mind. If you’ve used all the tips so far and your date reciprocates your touches by touching you back or coming closer to you, you’ve done all the right things. So hurrah for you. Now you need to let your date know that you want to kiss them. Go close to your date’s face, and wait for them to move in closer to you. If all goes well, you’ll be kissing your date and making out with them in no time.

But if your date doesn’t come closer to kiss you, it doesn’t matter. You need to create other ways to excite them sexually. Go really close to them and place your palm on their cheek or graze your lips on their cheek, really close to their lips. If your date closes their eyes to take in the sensation, they’re obviously ready for the kiss. But if time is what they need, continue to get touchy feely until they get too weak in the knees to resist you any further.


#8 Take it really slow. Once you start kissing your date for the first time, don’t get carried away and get aggressive instantly. Feel your date’s lips softly touch your own and spend a few seconds trying to understand who takes the upper lip or who takes the lower lip. Trust me, that one thing alone can lead to confusions if you’re already used to a particular type of kissing. Again,don’t over think it

#9 Using your tongue. Don’t use your tongue immediately as soon as you start kissing your date for the first time, but don’t keep it hidden either. Slide your tongue in just a tiny bit until you touch your date’s lips with your tongue. If they reciprocate, you’re doing it just right. Beyond the first thirty seconds or so, it’s alright to get bold and explore just a little more, very softly, of course!

#10 Learn to keep your hands busy. Once you’ve got your lips busy, what do you do with your hands? For starters, place your hands on the sides or the back of your kissing mate. If you want to turn the passion on, you can run one hand through your date’s hair or move it along the neck

How long should a first kiss last?

First kisses aren’t measured in seconds.  They’re measured in passionate moments. A perfect kiss isn’t just one kiss, it’s a series of well timed first kisses. Kiss your date for a few seconds, and move your head back slowly, but keep it within a few inches from your date’s face. It makes you feel more in control, and you’ll be able to read your date’s expression too.

If your date backs away, you need to wait. If they come closer and start kissing you again, they like what you’re doing.

But what I’d suggest is to move your face back just a little bit after several seconds, and come in for another kiss within a second or two. It shows that you want to kiss, so it won’t leave your date wondering if you’re not interested in the kiss. By taking occasional breaks and coming in for a kiss again, you’ll be able to increase the passion and make your date want your kisses even more.

#12 Vary the kisses. Start with a really soft kiss, and follow it up with another soft kiss. But once the kisses start to get frequent, vary the pace and the pressure of the kisses. Push your date aggressively once, and immediately after that, kiss your date softly again. That’ll leave your date confused in a passionate frenzy of kisses, and they’ll start to get wilder and more aggressive too!

#13 Don’t stop at the lips. A kiss may start at the lips but could end anywhere else. After a few minutes of intense kissing, don’t stagnate the game by restricting your kisses only to the lips. Every now and then, kiss your date’s cheek, the chin or their neck in between all the kisses on the lips. It gives you access to more places and makes the whole experience sizzle a lot more.

#14 Don’t push it. Don’t try too hard to reach out to too many places too soon. If the first kiss goes well, you know there will definitely be many more dates with many more kisses too. So unless you’re certain your date likes where your hands are going, don’t try to reach out to too many places. Perfect the first kiss and create a memorable experience first.


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“It’s harmful for Fanta and Sprite to be taken with Vitamin C” – Court orders NAFDAC to educate consumers


A Lagos High Court has ordered the National Agency For Food, Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC) to immediately direct the manufacturers of soft drinks; Fanta and Sprite (Nigeria Bottling Company PLC) to include a written warning that the content of the bottles cannot be taken with Vitamin C.

This was the result from a suit filed against the NBC and NAFDAC by Lagos businessman, Dr Emmanuel Fijabi Adebo and his company, Fijabi Adebo Holdings Limited.

His lawyer alleged that sometime in March, 2007, his client’s company purchased large quantities of Coca-Cola, Fanta Orange, Sprite, Fanta Lemon, Fanta Pineapple and Soda Water from NBC for export to the UK for retail purposes and supply to their customers. When the packages arrived there, fundamental health related matters were raised on the contents and composition of the Fanta and Sprite products by the UK Health Authorities, specifically the Stockport Metropolitan Borough Council’s Trading Standard Department of Environment and Economy Directorate.

The findings from the United Kingdom were corroborated by the Coca-Cola European Union and products were found to have excessive levels of “Sunset Yellow and Benzoic Acid “which are unsafe for human consumption. Due to the irregularities and harmful content of the soft drinks which can cause cancer to the consumer, the claimants could not sell the Fanta and Sprite products resulting in appreciable losses, as they were certified unsuitable for consumption and were seized and destroyed by the United Kingdom health authorities

Adebo’s Lawyer urged the court to declare that the Nigeria Bottling Company was negligent and breached the duty of care owed to their valued customers and consumers in the production of contaminated Fanta and Sprite soft drinks with excessive “benzoic acid and sunset” addictive. They also urged the court to direct NAFDAC to conduct and carry out routine laboratory tests of all the soft drinks and allied products of the company to ensure and guarantee the safety of the consumable products, produced from the Nigeria Bottling Company factory.

Although the Nigeria Bottling Company contended that the claimants claims are speculative, frivolous and vexatious and should be dismissed with substantial costs, NAFDAC did not file any defence.

In a judgment delivered by Justice Adedayo Oyebanji declared that NAFDAC has failed Nigerians by its certification as satisfactory for human consumption, products which in the UK failed sample test for human consumption and which became poisonous in the presence of  Vitamin C. He therefore ordered:

”That NAFDAC shall forthwith mandate Nigeria Bottling Company to, within 90 days hereof, include on all the bottles of Fanta and Sprite soft drinks manufactured by the company, a written warning that the content of the said bottles of Fanta and Sprite soft drinks cannot be taken with Vitamin C as same becomes poisonous if taken with Vitamin C.
”In consideration of the fact that this case was filed in 2008 and that it has been in court for 9 years, costs of N2 million is awarded against NAFDAC. Interest shall be paid on the costs awarded at the rate of 10% per annum until liquidation of the said sum.”
Source: pmnewsnigeria
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Pics: 9 Beautiful African Hairstyles You Should Try Out


Every woman’s hair is her glory and the way she styles it says a lot about her, a woman’s hair makes her look good and that is why most women go to the salon and spend hours trying to beautify themselves to the annoyance of men. In the olden days, we have different hairstyles that made out mothers look gorgeous before our father, hairstyles like Patewo, shuku, kolese (All back), Fulani, Threading and much more.

Civilisation has made most women forget these hairstyles that made our mothers beautiful before our fathers and that is why artificial attachment, weavon and lot more are the raves of the day. Today, I will be taking us back to those hairstyles that made our mothers, queens before our fathers. Here are some of those hairstyles that rocked the olden days.



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How to Live a Happy Life: 10 Things to Say Yes to Starting Today


“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Abraham Lincoln

“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
Chinese Proverb

Saying no is often the easier way out.

When you say no you can safely stay within your comfort zone. You don’t have to fear failing or being rejected. The scary unknown and sometimes difficult change can be avoided.

But if you say yes your life can expand and deepen. The yes allows you to open up your life to more happiness.

Today I would like to share 10 things that I have said yes to and that have helped me to become happier in my life.

Pick one of these that resonate the most with you and focus on making it a part of your life.

1. Being imperfect.

Trying to be perfect is setting the bar too high. It will be impossible to reach. And so you’ll lower your self-esteem. You may not feel very happy about how things are going in your life. Even though they might be going very well indeed.

Perfectionism is mindset that eats at you and your happiness. Saying yes to being imperfect can turn that around.

How to do it:

  • Realize the costs of buying into myths of perfection. By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it.
    But in real life it clashes with reality and it can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world. I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact.
  • Go for good enough. Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else very slowly or never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.

2. Being you.

Not being able to be yourself, always trying to change for others or censoring yourself don’t feel good at all. It makes life feel so small and limited.

So how can you be yourself? Your environment plays a huge part.

How to do it:

  • Supportive people. Spend more time with the people who support your dreams, values and you. Or are at least neutral. And spend less time with people who always criticize you or you simply aren’t a good fit for.
  • Supportive and life-expanding influences outside of your everyday life. Change your environment not only close to you. Go further and spend more time with sources of information that supports your dreams and can give you information that expands and makes your life happier and more exciting. Find support from people you have never met via books, movies, blogs, forums and music. And spend less time with negative and limiting influences.

3. The things that make you come alive.

It is important to find some time and energy for the things that you feel makes you come alive.

How to do it:

  • Mix it up. Try something new, even if it is just something small each week. Eat the vegetarian dish at lunch if you always eat meat. Listen to some music that isn’t your normal cup of tea. Go out to a movie, café or pub with friends if you usually stay in at night. Or vice versa. Create variation and expand your comfort zone regularly in small ways to live a happier life.
  • Reconnect with what you used to love if it has fallen by the wayside. If you used to go fishing, paint or play the guitar and it really made you come alive then reconnect. Use an hour for it this week and see if it still brings you joy and makes you come alive.

4. Optimism.

Pessimism can really limit your life and bring it to a standstill. It can make it feel like there’s no point in trying because it won’t make a difference or you’ll just fail. It can create ceilings and walls made out of glass where there really are none.

Saying yes a more optimistic way of thinking can on the other hand open your life up.

How to do it:

  • Ask yourself optimistic questions. When you’re in what seems like a negative situation then make something better out of it by asking yourself questions that promote optimism and helps you to find solutions. Questions like: What is one thing that is positive or good about this situation? And what is the opportunity within this situation?
  • Start your day off on the right foot. As mentioned in tip #2, the influences in your life can make a huge difference. So choose to spend your breakfast time with an optimistic influence like for example a book, a blog or your mom. Or talk to someone early in the day that most often supports and cheers you up like a co-worker or a friend in school.

5. Turning negative self-talk around.

It is very important to keep your motivation and your self-esteem up to live a happier life.

Your inner critic may be one of biggest obstacles standing in your way of that. If you make a mistake or fail, if someone criticizes you or if you are just getting tired then that small inner voice can become louder and louder and drag and keep you down.

It can tell you that you are stupid or lazy. That you will not succeed. That you are worse or uglier than someone else.

Being able to turn the inner critic around or to shut it up as soon as it pops up is a very helpful skill.

How to do it:

  • Say stop. Simply create a stop word or stop-phrase that you say or shout in your mind whenever your critic pipes up with a distorted and self-esteem hurting thought. Say: Stop! Or: No, no, no, we are not going there again!
  • Explain to yourself what this will lead to over the next year or more. As I mentioned in tip #1, reminding yourself of the cost of buying into myths of perfection is a powerful way to replace those thought habits. This works very well for other self-esteem hurting thought patterns too. Remind yourself of how the inner critic has shaped your life so far. And in your mind see the cost of letting it roam free for another year or five.

6. Saying no when you feel it is the right thing for you to do.

To have the time and energy to say yes to the most important things you have to say no to some things too.

How to do it:

  • What do I truly want to focus my time and energy on? When you get an offer or an opportunity arises ask yourself this question. When you look over your schedule ask yourself this question. Think about and look at what your top priorities are and what you deep want before you say anything.
  • Disarm and then state your need. It becomes easier for people to accept your no if you disarm them first. You could for example do that by honestly saying that you are flattered or that you appreciate the kind offer. Then you, for instance, add that you do not have the time for accepting and doing what they want. Or say that you do not feel that this offer is a good fit for your life right now.

7. Forgiveness.

Not clinging to the past and to the hurt that is there but to let it go and look to the now and the future is an essential thing to find more happiness in your life.

Forgiving is not always easy and can take time but there are some things that can make it a little easier.

How to do it:

  • Remind yourself that you forgive for your own benefit. As long as you don’t forgive someone you are linked to that person. Your thoughts will return to the person who wronged you and what he or she did over and over again.
    The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you and – as a result of your inner turmoil – most often in other people around you too. When you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself free from all of that agony too.
  • Make a habit of forgiving yourself. Do not just forgive others but also yourself. By forgiving yourself – instead of resenting yourself for something you did a week or 10 years ago – you make the habit of forgiveness more and more of a natural part of you. And so forgiving others becomes easier too.

8. Making someone else happy.

Making someone else happier has many benefits. The happiness spreads back to you as you see his or her face light up and as you know you did the right thing.

It spreads back to you as people have a strong tendency to want to give back when you have done something good for them. And it spreads out into the world as that now happier person may spread his or her happiness to other people.

How to do it:

  • Help out practically. Lend someone a hand when they are moving. Or give them a ride in your car. Or if they need information, try to find a solution by asking the people you know or via Google.
  • Just listen. Sometime a friend or someone close to you may just want to vent or for someone to listen as he or she figures things out. It may not seem like much but it can be an immense help for someone who needs it. So be there fully – don’t sit there thinking about something else – and listen.

9. Openness and growth.

Saying yes to being open to the good things in life and growing as a person plays a big role when it comes to happiness.

The other things in this article will help you with that. But here are two more tips that will make your journey a little easier and simpler.

How to do it:

  • Change one thing at a time. Changing many things or your whole life at once sure sounds good. But willpower is something we often overestimate and everyday life tends to come in the way. So to make sure you have a much better chance of changing a habit or area of your life change just one thing at a time.
  • Start small. Just say no to one small thing you don’t want to do this week. Or forgive one person for one thing. Or help and make someone happy in some small way. Take just one small step outside of your comfort zone.

10. To living your life fully despite setbacks.

When things have been standing still for while or you hit a bump in the road then it’s easy to back down. To shrink. To give in or give up.

But a better way to say yes to happiness in those situations is to say yes to living your life fully.

How to do it:

  • Keep going. When you fail or make a mistake don’t give up. Reconnect with optimism by using the questions further up in this article. Find inspiration from books and blogs and the people around you. Don’t beat yourself up. Instead nudge yourself back on track again.
  • Remember, it’s not too late to change your life. I didn’t really try to improve my life very much until I was 25. And many throughout the world and history have made positive changes far later in life than that. So if you want to make a change then start today. Work with what you have where you are right now. Start small and take the first step towards something new.


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