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10 Reasons Why Men Lie To Women

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Unhappy couple having an argument on the couch at home in the living room

Men have been characterized as more liars than women; In fact, they have admitted that they lie on average four times a day; But why lie?

This is the list that research made with the reasons why men lie to women.

Not to hurt their feelings: Men prefer to tell a lie, to hurt the feelings of a woman. It is preferable to say that he did not come to the date because he had a lot of work, to confess that he was very tired and preferred to go home to sleep.

To impress: Certain men often exaggerate their qualities, such as economic position, friendships, tastes, etc., with the aim of attracting the attention of the women they desire. This usually occurs during the period of conquest.

Avoid problems: Although they say reconciliations are very good, in many cases they prefer to lie to avoid problems. These types of lies are usually applied by married men since when they know the things that dislike their wife, they prefer to say a “white” lie to start an eternal discussion.

Insecurity: Some men do not have good self-esteem, that’s why they resort to lying, not just to their partner, but to friends and even family. In the exclusive case of their partner, they create a more interesting life, because they believe that theirs does not have much movement, they make themselves the interesting ones and they try to show that they have the control.

Raise their ego: In reality, the ego of men is very fragile, and when they have in front of them an intelligent and “self-sufficient” woman, they feel the need to lie to protect themselves. Women do not have to learn about their fears, limitations, their lack of skills and much less about other weaknesses.

Evade responsibilities: This point covers several types of commitments, from not wanting to go to a family event or with friends, at work or even do not want to formalize a relationship. These points often annoy men and with their great experience in pretending, they manage to get away with it and avoid responsibility.

Infidelity: This is one of the most common reasons why men lie to women. Statistics show that 60 percent of men are unfaithful, against 40 percent of women. The simple fact of being unfaithful is a lie, but to hide this, you have to continue lying, which leads to a chain of endless lies.

Fear: It is said that men are more afraid of falling in love than women, and that is that by engaging in a relationship, they feel that they lose control and are vulnerable to their desires.

For s3x: When all he wants from a woman is a night of passion, it does not matter how, but to achieve his goal. Usually, in these cases, they do not like to waste time, and that’s why they resort to lies and when they have succeeded they continue to deceive.

Manipulate: Lies are also used as tools of control by men because when they realize that their partner is vulnerable, they begin to lie to have certain benefits.

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7 Things Every Man Should Have Before Getting Married

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So many people get married because of age factor or because of pressure from family and friends without them being fully ready for marriage but age should not be a major requirement for marriage it should, in fact, be the least requirement for marriage.

No one should jump into marriage as there are some important things everyone should know before getting married.

There are more important things a man should know and have before getting married and here are a list of them.

A job/business: “A man who’s looking to be married ought to have something doing; starting a family requires a lot of bills, and a man is more ‘manly’ when he can put food on the table. If a man can’t satisfy this obligation, then the family will live in chaos – peace will be a foreign language in that home”.

An idea of the type of woman he wants: “Before a man gets married, he should have an idea of who he wants; you can’t just pick any woman and marry her, you ought to know who/what you want in a woman”.

Understands what he wants: “Another important thing a man should have/know before getting married is an understanding of what he wants in a home, how do you want your home to be? how do you want your marriage to be? everyone should have an idea of what they want in starting a family before starting because you don’t just build a house without an understanding of what you want in that house; there’s first a conception of the house before the architect draws up the plan and the same should apply in your marriage”.

Maturity: “Marriage is for the matured minds and if you haven’t reached this stage of handling situations maturely, then marriage isn’t for you; it isn’t about age, but how well you can control yourself and make wise decisions in the heat of the moment”.

Vision: “Vision is another important thing a man should have before marriage; you ought to have a vision for yourself and also a vision for the marriage, where is that marriage heading to? where are you heading to?, you need to have this vision as a man, because a man without a vision is heading nowhere”.

Knowledge of women and how to treat them: “If you don’t know how to treat a woman, then at least know how to treat your woman, and if you don’t know how to treat that woman, then you need to learn before you ask her to marry you”.

The zeal to be committed: “If you know that you aren’t ready to give in your 100% to make your marriage work and you aren’t going to be fully committed, then marriage isn’t for you yet, you must have the zeal for commitment before heading into marriage”.

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3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Say “I Love You” Too Soon

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Relationships do not start in a day it is a gradual process which is why even if you get attracted to someone you need to take things easy and not rush things.

Which brings us to the question of the day, is it okay to tell that person how you feel so soon? Is it ever too early to tell someone ‘I love you’?

Well, this question depends on who you are with and the type of love you mean. Sometimes, one might take too long to say it, end up losing the person because they’d think you’re not that much into them after all and in the same vein, if the chemistry is still not strong enough or the friendship still very new, then perhaps,  you will have press pause.

“You may ask,”how do I know when the timing isn’t right?” “Well, you never really know, you just watch the body language, check if they comfortable with you?do they seem into you as much as you are?how often do they want to hear from you, you put these into consideration?

Here are 3 reasons you shouldn’t say “I love you” too soon:

“Saying “I love you” too soon might seem unbelievable at times because when quickly said, it might lose its meaning and that person wouldn’t believe you and might choose to stay away from you”.

“Action speaks louder than words, one easily believe what one can see than what one is being told so before you start saying how you feel, show it first with your action — that’s what makes it believable”.

“Let that person warm up to you first, love becomes reciprocal when two people feel the same way but when it’s just one person feeling it, then it won’t be reciprocated so take your time and show that person how you feel before you say how you feel; let the person warm up to you first, and then it’ll be easier for the person to accept you”.

So never ever make the mistake of saying “I love you” too soon.

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How To Be A Strong Independent Woman That Men Can’t Resist

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If there is one thing that takes men by storm these days, it is an independent woman, those kinds of ladies make men stop in their tracks and fall hopelessly in love with their brilliance and mind. Independent women are not defined by their circumstances, they find the best in their situations and work hard at improving themselves while retaining their inner strength and ethical values.

Want to be an independent woman? you will have to make some changes in your everyday life in order to become a strong, independent woman. Below are some steps on how to turn yourself into an envied, strong independent woman that men love.

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Do not neglect your career: “A career doesn’t have to mean a fancy job, whether you

are working night shifts or working a 9-5 job, always strive to be really great at it, work hard and keep your eye on the future”.

Don’t let haters get to you: “Social media has exposed a lot of people to haters and sadly, independent ladies are always victims of such attacks but, they never let it get to them and you shouldn’ too, don’t give it the attention that it needs to survive and just in case you participate in cyber bullying, know that it is wrong, abusive and harmful”.

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Don’t neglect your physical needs: “It is very important that you don’t neglect your physiological and health needs, the fact is that your body needs sleep, water, food and your body needs to unwind and relax, neglecting these isn’t just stupid; it’s reckless, silly, and not something that a strong, independent girl does at all as relaxing and unwinding lets your mind restore itself so that it can be fighting fit the next day. And most importantly ladies, so take the time to look good and dress fashionably”.

Provide for yourself: “This one is taking the term ‘independent’ literally if you want to be this type of woman, then you have to literally provide everything for yourself because you can’t rely on anyone else for money, a home, or even happiness and if you really want men to love you, you’ll be able to provide everything you need yourself as this takes the pressure off of your guy to ‘be the man’ and provide everything because sometimes, he can’t, this lets him know that you’re not with him for his money or assets, you’re with him for him”.

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Letter to Nigerian men: Don’t start with spending money or projecting cash to a lady you are interested in – Joro Olumofin

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Relationship blogger and psychologist Joro Olumofin has advised Nigerian men not to start with spending money or projecting wealth to any lady they are interested in.

 

Read his piece below….

 

Based on Psychological principles such as “Primacy rule”, & “Learning Theories”, the first stimulus you present in an experiment if pleasurable must be repeated or continued if you want to keep your test subjects interests remaining intact. I.e if you start with something; that’s what you will be remembered for and also you must continue it because that’s the basis Or foundation of your relationship. This being said, a lot of men today are guilty of throwing money, gifts, iPhone, bags, shoes, perfumes first at women before even forming any ” intellectual or mind connection” with their love interest.

 

These same men later complain that ladies ask them for money too much, these ladies present them with a reservoir of requests & when there’s no money or gifts there’s nothing to talk about. FRIENDSHIP SHOULD COME FIRST BEFORE SPENDING MONEY. The major problem with our generation regarding relationships is that ” sex ” is now synonymous with “money”. Men believe that if they don’t spend money or show off their assets, house, cars ladies won’t pay them any attention which is TRUE and also ladies because of peer pressure, unavailability of jobs, recession mentality, hardships believe that money shows love & caring. Being broke to some ladies is a crime which warrants insults or derogatory names.

 

As a result, you see ladies make references like I just met this guy ” he drives a benz, he bought me an iPad, he lives In Asokoro Abuja OMG! He’s a nice guy. How do you know he’s a nice guy??? when you never properly courted him. Materialism and Money have take over in our generation in relationships.

 

Fellas, don’t spend 1 kobo on her first, take her on dates, play snake and ladder, play ludo with her, take her to have drinks or movies. Don’t start with materialistic things. Let’s put a stop to Money before Love. Love should come before money.. DO YOU AGREE?

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Little-Known Habits That Are Secrets To A Happy Relationship

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A happy relationship is not a myth, we all can have a happy relationship but we have to make more efforts, especially on little things we think, do not really matter because at the end of it all those little things are what make major differences in keeping your relationship strong and happy.

Contrary to popular belief, a happy relationship is not a myth! I don’t intend to preach like an agony aunt but the beauty of a relationship lies in its small efforts. You don’t need to use pricey gifts and expensive dinner dates as an expression of your feelings; if they are heartfelt, your cute little efforts are enough to show how much you love your partner. The Brunette Diaries lists down the habits that are super essential for a successful relationship.

“The habit of sending cute ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ messages can never go out of fashion, especially if it’s a long-distance relationship that we’re talking about”.

“Always make sure your relationship is based on friendship as it will give you an edge over the one that is based on respect”.

“Do not sleep over a fight, no matter what the issue is, sort it out before you turn off the lights, even if it means that you need to take the initiative”.

“Don’t hold grudges, finish a fight completely and move ahead with a clean slate; don’t keep any unsaid feelings bottled up inside you”.

“Always find a little time for your partner, even if you’re super busy, you’ll be surprised to know how a 5-minute mushy phone conversation between work hours lights up yours and your partner’s face”.

“Even if cheesy romantic gestures are not your thing, throw in a few compliments and words of encouragement in your conversation once in a while, they go a long way”.

“The importance of spending quality time with your mate cannot be emphasised enough, even something as simple as sharing a meal can go miles in strengthening your bond”.

“Give yourselves a chance to miss each other and come back to some morning romance”.

“There’s no such thing like too many ‘I Love You’s in a relationship!, say it as often as you can”.

“Don’t assume, if you haven’t spoken to your partner about something that upsets you, do it right away and give your partner a chance to put their story forward instead of assuming things”.

Well, there you have it, those little and funny habits may seem funny and weird to you but they are undoubtedly things that will make your relationship happy and fun filled.

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Must Read: Woman Shares Heartbreaking Story Of How She Endured Abusive Marriage For 2 Years

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A 34-year-old woman shares an emotional story of what she endured at the hands of her husband for two years. In the story the woman said her husband was a cool headed individual when they started only for him to become a monster when he lost his job.

She narrated how she was beaten, defiled and all sorts. According to her, the last straw on the camel’s back was when she found her husband unclad in the bathtub with her daughter and also when her husband asked their daughter to massage his man-hood with a vaseline.

Read her story below:

 

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You can catch std’s from your man’s beard!

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Wearing a beard seems to be the rave of the moment among men, especially the young men.

These days, men scrape off their heads while spotting buoyant, well-nurtured beards.

Yet, experts are saying that though a well-groomed beard may appear sexy, it also  has the potential to be a breeding ground for germs, causing fungal infections and herpes.

Indeed, physicians warn that they can even carry pubic lice!

Dermatologists indeed say that a very thick beard may disguise symptoms of skin disease, and anyone who comes into close contacts with it risks being infected.

A dermatologist, Dr. Debra Jaliman, notes, “If a guy doesn’t groom his moustache and beard properly, they can become a breeding grounds for germs.

“Though the risk is small, chin and cheek hair can harbour germs that can cause infections such as herpes, fungal infections, or even a dangerous Staphylococcus infection. If you come in direct contact with any of these infectious agents, you may end up with skin problems.”

Jaliman adds that the problem partly has to do with the wiry hairs that trap sweat, bodily fluids, even bits of food, all of which serve as breeding grounds for microbes.

Another problem, Jaliman says, is that thick facial hair can camouflage symptoms of a transmissible skin issue that isn’t directly related to the beard or moustache itself, such as redness that could be from yeast or a herpes sore.

If the man doesn’t notice the signs, he could inadvertently infect his sex partner with it.

Other things you can get from hipster facial hair include warts and impetigo.

Again, she says, a bristly beard can cause irritation and a rash when rubbed against his partner’s face, which can trigger pink bumps and chafing.

How to groom facial hair

• Wash with soap at least once a day

• Inspect it regularly (say, after meals, for instance) to make sure no particles or dirt are trapped between the hairs.

• Before you engage in any direct contact with his beard, ensure that the skin around and under it is healthy, with no redness, bumps, or blisters.

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Ways To Build Intimacy In Your Relationship Aside S3x

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S3x is an intimate act that bonds couples which are why most couples consider it as the ultimate way to build intimacy in their relationship. But there are more to relationships than s3x if you want a steady and long term relationship.

You don’t always need to be naked to develop a strong bond and build intimacy with your partner, below are simple ways to help you build intimacy in your relationship without involving s3x.

Cuddling: I am not talking about spooning or the foreplay kind of cuddling you do before s3x but I am talking about just being close to your partner before going to bed or on a lazy weekend morning is an amazing way to feel close. Curl up on the couch or bed with your partner while watching your favourite movie or series.

Keep your phone away: This is the best thing you can do in this age of social media, keep all your gadgets away and put your phone on silent mode if need be and just be alone with your partner without any distractions. “Focus on each other and make them feel that they matter the most”.

Soulful conversations: “Spare some time during the day for a heart-to-heart talk with your partner, don’t discuss responsibilities, kids, future or an irate client that you came across, talk about the two of you, bring back old memories, and appreciate each other”

Care: “Show your affection, support your partner because that’s what makes them feel cared for, make note of little things that matter to them and give them a break from daily routine someday or make them their favourite food on a regular day, you don’t need occasions to show your care because showing it on other days builds a stronger bond”.

Working out or exercising together is an excellent way to build intimacy too, you can also bond with games it help in spending quality time together.

If you are the type that is always busy during the day, spend some time with each other during a night stroll, walk hand in hand, chat about random things, smile, laugh and share your feelings, you will feel so much closer to each other.

Listen to music or even dance while doing so, offering to help your partner while in the kitchen is a great way to bond and show that you care.

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5 SIGNS HE HAS A HUGE CRUSH ON YOU!!

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1: He gets that love sick look when he bumps into you at the grocery store…. And the library, and dinner, and the mall.

2: After you make eye contact with him from across the room, he won’t stop starring back – even after you’ve gone to the bathroom, held hands with your guy pal, and turned so your back is to him

3: He surprises you with tickets.

4: He almost beat up a guy who said you look like Gisele.. Because he thinks you are way prettier than she is.

5: He pretends to find it adorable when you kill him infront of his friend.

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Stop Searching For Rich Husbands Or Boyfriends – Chika Ike Tells Ladies

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Chika Ike has advised ladies not to go after rich boyfriends or husbands but focus on being rich ..Posting a photo at her building site ,she wrote

From movie set to construction site…super exhausted!! While some women are searching for rich boyfriends or husbands ,You should focus on being rich #empoweryourself #haveyourown #realestate #workhard #worksmart #africandiva

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